My daughter has a foul mouth and its my fault, how do I handle it now? ignore it?

[totaleclipse]

I admit I often without thinking say 'for f**k sake, its a terrible habit, dont realise I am saying it half the time, but now my otherwise adorible dt1 has started saying it, should I ignore it or tell her it is wrong each time she does it.


BTW, I have given myself a very hard slapped wrist

[totaleclipse]

Are you all so stunned at my bad parenting that you dont know what to reply

[Budababe]

Stunned. Sending you to coventry.

(Will await replies with interest as my nephew has a shicking mouth - gets it from my sis).

[ScummyMummy]

How old? If under 3.5 ish I'd ignore it, if older I'd say "You are not to say that and nor am I. Sorry you heard it." And stop saying it yourself except in emergencies asap! I had the same problem so sympathise.

[Walley]

You could try sitting down with her and saying you've decided to not say it any more, and that the new rule is that nobody says it.

You then need to impose some sort of fining system - maybe a reverse pasta jar - so each time she says it a piece is taken out. Obv, need to have pasta jars for other family members.

You will have to make your own swear box, into which you will have to place 10p each time you say it. You then spend the money on comics/treats etc for the children.

Any good?

On the other hand, maybe just quietly saying to her, "We don't say that, it doesn't sound nice" might be enough.

[dejags]

No time like the present to stop saying it. What's done is done.

I think your approach should depend on her age - if she's two, there's no point saying anything, just ignore. If she's three or four, she will respond to an explanation of why it's wrong.

[totaleclipse]

She is 3.3

[ScummyMummy]

I still haven't got over my son coming up with the obvious when the letter of the week at his nursery was f. He was 2.5 and man it was a wake up call! I honestly don't f and blind constantly but when i do it's with particular, er, emphasis. He really isn't majorly foul mouthed 5 years on though, I'm happy to say.

[themoon66]

I never allowed my kids to swear, apart from the odd 'bugger' if something went VERY wrong.

DD, aged 20, said the F-word quite by accident in front of me at Christmas and then instictively ducked out of my way, went bright red and said 'sorry, sorry, so sorry mum'.

[saffymum]

Don't beat yourself up about it, I have a terrible mouth and my DS (3) has repeated a few of the words. We have just started making point of apologising to each other when we swear and making a big thing of what a 'nasty word mummy just used, sorry darling'. Unfortunatley his dad calls him 'happy bollocks' as a nickname, not sure what to do about this though.....

[dionnelorraine]

I have to admit I say the same words without realising it. My dh tells me off! However my dd hasnt picked it up yet. But when she went to the zoo with her auntie and uncle (who are fab) she came back saying 'shit' dd is only 2! So we very quickly replaced it with 'oh dear' or 'oopsie' (Which me and my dh have to use to replace aswell!) and she picked that up straight away. So maybe try that. think of similar acceptable words and try to swap them.
It is hard though sometimes when its a natural reaction to say a naughty word when you are in a bad mood.
oopsie

[Mirage]

DH told me today that dd1 {3.6) dropped something on the floor & said 'oh bugger!'.I know she has heard me saying it,so explained to her that she shouldn't say it & neither should I,because it wasn't polite.I also told her to tell me off if she hears me say it again.I'm sure she will as she is going through a real bossy/tale telling phase.

[katelyle]

I introduced my two very early to the word "appropriate". It helped to explain why it was OK to do or say some things in front of some people and not others. For example you can say fart in front of one grandma but not in front of the other. Some things are appropriate for grown ups but not children - like Eastenders, wine and black lycra miniskirts.(actually, some things aren't appropriate for anyone......) The same goes for swearing. I try really really hard not to, but when I do I apologize and if they do "it's not appropriate for children" Mind you I do get lots of wagging fingers from ds and "No, mummy, that's not proriate" I don't know I used that word, I think if I was doing it again I would choose someting simpler, but it really helps to be able to have a sliding scale of language, behaviour, whatever rather than blanket bans. Sorry, rambling and waffling now!

[Oblomov]

Ds(3.2)swore last week.
He said f**k off.
I was so ashamed.
I don't swear alot, but I KNEW it had come from me.
We tried to play it down, not make a big issue of it, but said 'not to say it'.

Then today, as we was playing, rolling around and chasing him down the hall, he joyfully said it again.

Oh no. What do I do ?

[ScottishThistle]

Don't make an issue out of it & make a very huge effort to stop using it yourself!