Hi, this is my first post.
My son turned 4 in November. Back then I would describe him as the outgoing, happy, social one out of my 2 children (he has a little sister 13 months younger than him).
The change happened I'd say around the middle of December. I really noticed it in January as we were trying to get back into normal routines - back to nursery etc.
The biggest difference I've noticed is he flat out does not want to visit my nana and grandad anymore (his great grandparents). Usually him and his sister go to their house after nursery every Tuesday and Thursday. The other days they still visit but I go too. Since starting back at nursery in January, each Tuesday and Thursday my grandparents pick him up and he cries straight away to come home. On the other days we knock on to do our usual visit and he will cry and pull me away until we go home. He doesn't even want to go in their house. This is very unusual for him as both him and his sister have done this since they were very young babies. My daughter still goes and cries to visit them alot of the time. They have always been very close to them.
Most of the time he just wants to be at home. We regularly go out during the week for tea and play dates, and we go out at least one day at the weekend. DS doesn't want to anymore. He cries and refuses to leave the house. We do persist and once we get out and to for example the museum, he loves it. But he's always eager to get back home.
What's strange to me is I thought out of both my children I would be making a post like this about my daughter. Up until her turning 3 (In December) she has been very shy, quite a loner, and very quiet. I suffered from social anxiety throughout all my childhood so I have always worried my daughter would be the same as she did show signs of it. Since she turned 3 she has excelled so much, she is not half as shy, much more social and adventurous. I feel as though they have completely changed places. Obviously I'm glad my daughter has developed this way, but I feel as though DS is regressing instead of progressing. It makes me sad to see him so withdrawn and seemingly unhappy.
I guess I wondered if anyone had any advice or had experienced similar? I want to help him in any way I can, and I really want to see him back to the bubbly, happy child I know!
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Talk to others about child development and behaviour stages here. You can find more information on our development calendar.
Behaviour/development
4 year old sudden change in behaviour/mood
11 replies
Kbuck93 · 16/02/2017 13:10
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.