Today we went to soft play. As it's half term it was really manic and while I kept an eye on DD it was impossible to see her at all times. At one point I noticed a much bigger girl tapping her on the back. I couldn't see well from where I was standing to know if she was hitting her but she did it a few times. DD walked off out of my sight and I thought she must be fine and maybe the girl was just being friendly, until DD came running out to find me looking really upset. She was close to tears and saying "Someone is hitting me. Someone is hitting me." I comforted her and she ran off back to play. I looked around for the girl but didn't see her again.
Quite a while later on I saw DD looking upset again. She was far back, on an upper level, so I went in to find her and it was the same, she was really upset and saying "someone is hitting me." The girl had gone at this point I'm quite sure so it must have been someone else. DD isnt one to lie or overreact. When she falls over she is really brave and just gets back up again without a fuss. She only cries when really hurt. I know children accidentally knock into each other when playing but DD isnt bothered about that. She would only have said that if someone was deliberately hurting her.
I don't know if this is normal and expected to happen at places like soft play, or if maybe something about her makes her a target. When she was slightly under 2 there was a similar incident at a playgroup. An older child was actively seeking out DD and hitting her. I kept on taking DD away to another part of the room but the child kept coming for her. I told her off in the end (wasn't sure who her parent was), and after that she left DD alone. When the girl was hitting her, DD didn't retaliate she just looked stunned. I could see she just didn't understand why anyone would hurt her on purpose.
Dp has said before about worrying that DD could be a target for bullies. We suspect she may have ASD and are planning to try and get her assessed soon. I wouldn't post had it just been a one-off incident but the fact it has happened now three times worries me. She's very similar to my DM in nature and my DM has seemed to attract bullies throughout life. I think it's because she is quite vulnerable and I'm worried that it will be the same for DD.
I don't know, is there something about some children/adults that makes bullies target them? And if so, what can I do to help my DD?
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2.5 year old dd target for bullies or is this normal?
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IsitJustFantasy · 15/02/2017 17:29
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