7 year old naughty will not listen

[Lucyloo1489]

Is this normal behaviour ???

My 7 year just will not listen and has the most vile temper tantrums I'm being told by teacher not listening and this is becoming more and more regular but on the other hand she says is really trying hard and gets certificates etc...
but at home child just does not listen and when asked to do things has temper tantrums and I mean tantrums throwing things slamming things screams house down mainly bed time and when told can't play Xbox iPad etc I've decided that iPad not having on weekdays anymore as it's that bad I've decided to ban completely . Child is a little sensitive and negative says things like I'm a idiot I just can't do it when I know they can and seems to really put there self down I've never said these things to child and always say course u can ur not a idiot etc its heartbreaking to here some of things said and I just don't know what else to do is it just a faze ??? is it normal 7 year old behaviour only child also so I'm just trying to see if it's normal ???? Child is very bright and sometimes it's like talking to a adult which makes me think is child just older in the head than actually Is ???? Any advise or similar behaviour I'd like to here all about it and what things others have in place to stop it ???

[einalem1984]

Is this new behaviour? Just wondered if there was a trigger for it.

[peukpokicuzo]

I have a 7yo who does have some behaviour issues like this. I think it's a developmental thing because they are getting more complex cognition and no longer accept that parents are the ultimate definers of what is allowed and not allowed.

We have a general rule that any stroppiness or tantruming about anything leads to whatever the issue is about automatically getting worse. So a strop about no xbox tonight will make there also be no xbox tomorrow. You have to be consistent about this to teach that temper tantrums are not an acceptable strategy. At the same time you do also need to have a better pathway open so that you can teach how to behave reasonably when you want something - so when a privilege is taken away give the opportunity to earn it back through good behaviour and helpfulness.

[user1483972886]

R they an only child? Can you distract them with non screen stuff? Playing? Going outside? Consistency is key. Make sure any 'threats' are realistic and you follow through.
DD nearly 7 has definitely been more stropy recently. Hold your nerve and be consistent! Good luck!

[Lucyloo1489]

Thank you all yes only child I found that no iPad on weekdays seems to have calmed him down so far so good and yes consistency is key I'll keep this in mind