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Isit bullying or just a case of a "typical girls'

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Occasionallyknownasmum Sun 05-Feb-17 19:29:42

So my dd (5 -reception class) hasn't been herself since she came home from school on Friday and has been up and down emotionally for atleast a couple of weeks. This weekend she's been crying loads really quiet, not engaging in activities not wanting to play with her cousins and being very clingy/cuddly. So my SiL took her for a walk with the dog and turns out she's being 'picked' on by a girl at school. Who's not calling her the right name (her name is quite unusual but definitely is prounancable!) Also saying she can't join in the game in the playground.
But does this qualify as bullying? And do I speak to her scatty teacher or do I by pass her and go straight to the head if it is bullying?

reallyanotherone Sun 05-Feb-17 19:37:41

"It's a girl thing". Is a phrase used to excuse female crappy behaviour.

It is never "a boy thing", or a girl thing. It is always a personality thing.

"Typical girl" removes the responsibility for a child's actions. It's in their nature, it's beyond their control so there's nothing you can do to stop it.


The child is being mean. Nothing to do with her vagina. Some kids are mean, and some do play "playground politics".

Give your child the tools to deal with mean behaviour. This girl is not her friend, and who wants to play with mean people? Find people who do want to play with her, nice children.

By all means have a word with the teacher. But if a child is mean, there's not much you can do until her peers stop putting up with it and she has to change. Teach your dd to call her on it, and go play with others.

Occasionallyknownasmum Sun 05-Feb-17 19:58:11

Yours so right with what you said it's just people who I've spoken to this weekend about it have dusted it off and said it's a girl thing... personally I hate the term...

I just want my dd to be the happy girl she normally is its taken her along time to settle into school life and I feel like this is going to mess things up.

I have told her countless times to play with someone else and just to ignore the girl.

She's now saying she doesn't want to go to school tomorrow because she doesn't feel well.. although no signs of being ill at all.

reallyanotherone Sun 05-Feb-17 20:20:29

* have dusted it off and said it's a girl thing... *

Excusing the behaviour, so the girl never gets pulled up on it, and so it continues.

If it's getting to the point she's developing physical symptoms, i'd definately have a quiet word with the teacher, hopefully she'll have a general talk with the class about being nice and whay to do if someone is mean.

CointreauVersial Sun 05-Feb-17 20:25:02

Talk to the teacher. I bet she's noticed anyway.

Reception is all about learning to socialise, getting on with others, and developing empathy. Some grasp it quicker than others.

Occasionallyknownasmum Mon 06-Feb-17 15:28:44

Thank you... I spoke to class teacher today who said she spoke to the class and my dd seems so much happier coming out of school

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