Hello,
i'm a first time mum to a 14 and 1/2 months old DD.
She sat and crawled on time but since then, she's stucked! It's almost like the last 4 months never existed.
She can't pull up to stand let alone cruise on furnitures or walk.
She bables a lot and used to say mama, papa and no but not purposefuly. She stopped though.
She never points, when she want's something, she'll just try to grab it. If she can't, she never look back at me like she wants me to help.
She doesn't look where i point neither, or rarely.
She doesn't answer when i call her but does, randomly when someone else does.
on the other hand, she is very socialy engaging, she smiles back, has good eye contact, likes playing peekaboo, claps, waves bye bye.
When she plays, she always looks back at me when she sees something new or exciting. She notices when i leave the room and will follow me or cry. She get's excited when i come back home after work.
When we play together, she gives me toys.
When i say mamy (grandma) she looks at my mum.
She gets excited when i ask her if she wants to eat ...
so i thing she understand some things.
Do you thing i'm right to think about autism ?
i'm really scared right now, i'm a single mum, the "father" bailed on us early in my pregnancy and i can't imagine how difficult it would be for my DD and i if she has ASD.
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14 months autism red flags
gaelle79 · 31/01/2017 22:11
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I'll go against the grain here, and say that if you're worried, take even more notice.
We started noticing DS1 was autistic at about 9 months old. He also has speech development issues, meaning he can't understand what you're saying to him.
The biggest thing we noticed, was that he'd learn something (like waving) and he'd do it for a few weeks or maybe months, then he'd loose it, and never do it again.
He never wanted us to play with him, if he needed help building a tower, he may have grabbed our had and pulled us towards it, but he'd wouldn't want us to engage with him otherwise. No amounts of 'DS shall we build this now?' Would get even a glance from him.
Write things you're concerned about down, every couple of weeks. If she does end up being investigated for Autism, you'll have a plethora of notes, it was so helpful for us, it really meant doctors listened. We're a rare case, where by DS was diagnosed before he was 3.
DS is sociable, he loves people and is generally very very happy. He just doesn't know how to instigate playing or much social interaction. His eye contact was average up until he was about 18 months, now I don't think I've actually seen his eyes in about a year! But it'll come back hopefully.
This biggest advice is don't panic. Autism isn't a death sentence, it just means your child will thrive in ways other children don't.
DS is very nearly able to read, and he's not even 3 yet. He loves numbers, letters and shapes and can identify the difference between a hexagon and a octagon with ease.
Having a child with Autism has taught us so much, patience was the biggest lesson!
Your DD sounds likes she's a happy little girl, which is the most important thing.
The walking has very little to do with autism, she could just be a bit lazy 
(DS has the physical development skills of a 6 year old. He's been able to climb stairs one foot at a time since he was 14 months 
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