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14 months autism red flags

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gaelle79 Tue 31-Jan-17 22:11:06

Hello,
i'm a first time mum to a 14 and 1/2 months old DD.
She sat and crawled on time but since then, she's stucked! It's almost like the last 4 months never existed.
She can't pull up to stand let alone cruise on furnitures or walk.
She bables a lot and used to say mama, papa and no but not purposefuly. She stopped though.
She never points, when she want's something, she'll just try to grab it. If she can't, she never look back at me like she wants me to help.
She doesn't look where i point neither, or rarely.
She doesn't answer when i call her but does, randomly when someone else does.

on the other hand, she is very socialy engaging, she smiles back, has good eye contact, likes playing peekaboo, claps, waves bye bye.
When she plays, she always looks back at me when she sees something new or exciting. She notices when i leave the room and will follow me or cry. She get's excited when i come back home after work.
When we play together, she gives me toys.
When i say mamy (grandma) she looks at my mum.
She gets excited when i ask her if she wants to eat ...
so i thing she understand some things.
Do you thing i'm right to think about autism ?
i'm really scared right now, i'm a single mum, the "father" bailed on us early in my pregnancy and i can't imagine how difficult it would be for my DD and i if she has ASD.

TeaBelle Tue 31-Jan-17 22:12:57

She sounds entirely (awful word) normal. She's so so young still. You sound pretty anxious thoigh

JiltedJohnsJulie Wed 01-Feb-17 20:16:13

I agree that she sounds like a very lovely and happy little girl. If you are concerned, could you ask your HV for an assessment?

ThatsWotSheSaid Wed 01-Feb-17 20:22:56

Nothing you have said makes me think ASD at all. Sometimes when babies are working on one thing they stop doing everything else. It could be that she's working on her understanding or something else. Just enjoy her they grow up too fast.

MrsJamin Wed 01-Feb-17 20:24:08

She sounds normal, please stop worrying and enjoy your daughter.

PastysPrincess Wed 01-Feb-17 20:40:01

A big warning sign for autism is lack of eye contact and reduced social interaction. In addition they will need routine and order to everything. I am by no means an expert but my nephew is severely autistic. Your little one sounds entirely normal, however if you have concerns speak to your health visitor. Xx

Wheredidallthejaffacakesgo Wed 01-Feb-17 20:44:58

Get her hearing tested. Ds1 had very bad glue ear and behaved a little like this. He's totally fine (apart from the Lego on his bedroom floor and inability to put dirty clothes in the laundry basket.)

Parietal Wed 01-Feb-17 21:00:43

don't worry about the walking. neither my sister nor I walked til 20 months and we both did fine (university etc).

hearing test would be a good idea

oobedobe Thu 02-Feb-17 01:55:44

This used to be me, googling about my DD2, so I have been there, but please try not to worry. Some children just hit milestones later, there is a big range of 'normal'.

My DD2 did not crawl until 12 months, walked at about 18 months, talked much later and a bunch of other small things that worried me at the time etc but she is now four 1/2 loves school, is friendly, outgoing, happy and smart.

Please just enjoy your DD, if you have concerns later then you will deal with those as they come up but worrying about every little thing is pointless.

ChangedUsername123 Thu 02-Feb-17 07:28:48

I'll go against the grain here, and say that if you're worried, take even more notice.
We started noticing DS1 was autistic at about 9 months old. He also has speech development issues, meaning he can't understand what you're saying to him.
The biggest thing we noticed, was that he'd learn something (like waving) and he'd do it for a few weeks or maybe months, then he'd loose it, and never do it again.
He never wanted us to play with him, if he needed help building a tower, he may have grabbed our had and pulled us towards it, but he'd wouldn't want us to engage with him otherwise. No amounts of 'DS shall we build this now?' Would get even a glance from him.
Write things you're concerned about down, every couple of weeks. If she does end up being investigated for Autism, you'll have a plethora of notes, it was so helpful for us, it really meant doctors listened. We're a rare case, where by DS was diagnosed before he was 3.

DS is sociable, he loves people and is generally very very happy. He just doesn't know how to instigate playing or much social interaction. His eye contact was average up until he was about 18 months, now I don't think I've actually seen his eyes in about a year! But it'll come back hopefully.
This biggest advice is don't panic. Autism isn't a death sentence, it just means your child will thrive in ways other children don't.
DS is very nearly able to read, and he's not even 3 yet. He loves numbers, letters and shapes and can identify the difference between a hexagon and a octagon with ease.
Having a child with Autism has taught us so much, patience was the biggest lesson!
Your DD sounds likes she's a happy little girl, which is the most important thing.
The walking has very little to do with autism, she could just be a bit lazy grin (DS has the physical development skills of a 6 year old. He's been able to climb stairs one foot at a time since he was 14 months hmm)

ThatsWotSheSaid Thu 02-Feb-17 10:56:15

Changed children with autism do often have physical difficulties I'm afraid. Low tone, poor planning and co-ordination and poor core strength. Dyspraxia is a common co-occuring condition as well as physical difficulties resulting from poor sensory intergration (e.g. How much force to use etc) certainly not the case for you LO and many others but it's very common.
Just posting this so that if others who are worried about the development of thier own child are reading they have a bit more info.

gaelle79 Fri 03-Feb-17 14:44:35

hi everyone,

thank you for you for your answers. I'm known for being a nervous wreck and a pessimistic person. That's why I kept second guessing my gut feeling for a while. Now though, with time passing, I'm growing more concerned.

I take some comfort in what a lot of you guys said and pray for the best.
As I understand, some children can be late walkers, late talkers, pointers etc.

Problems start when the child is late in many different areas.
Mine is 14 and a half months old and she doesn't point at all, doesn't look where I point too, doesn't fallow my gaze and responds to her name only when she's in the right mood, doesn't pull up, doesn't say any distinctive word, not even mama to address me.

She does some other things that seem "normal" but I took the m chat and she failed it with a score of 6/7 depending on if I count the "responds to her name" question as a fail or a success.That's a medium risk.

That said, the test is designed for 16+ months and is usually taken at 18 months.
I really hope she will strive in the next 3 months but I'm worried.
I'm French, we leave in Paris so we don't have HV here but we have an appointment with a specialist in 2 weeks.

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