Biting One Year Old (not nipples) - HELP!(14 Posts)
DD was never like this... we had tantrums, but they didn't bloody hurt me!
DS (1 yesterday) has taken to biting me when he can't get his own way... over the last few days we have had 1 bitten underarm (christ that hurts!) because he didn't appreciate his trousers being rolled up so he didn't fall over them, 1 bitten hand because I put a cardy on him, 1 bitten thumb because I stopped him playing with a phone, and 1 bitten hand because... I don't remember, but I clearly did something he wasn't keen on!!
It is pure defiance. He knows exactly what he is doing. He knows it hurts (and often grins about it ). He is going to learn some interesting first words if he carries on like this!
I have been shrieking (not by choice!!), and sitting him on the floor far away from p*ssed off mummy, and I smacked his hand on the underarm occasion ( - I am a non-smackist - with DD it has happened once as reflex whacking her away from hot oven, and a couple of times in kicking carseat tantrum issues, so it had to hurt a lot to make me smack!)... so far not the slightest bit of difference (the smack made him cry )
How can I stop biting in one so young?!?!?! He's of an age where he knows EXACTLY what he is doing (and believe me, my mum's "oh he doesn't understand" soon changed when she had it happen to her too!), but he won't be desperately upset if I take his pasta away
I don't want a body covered in little tiny teeth marks.
If he does it, turn around and leave him alone in the room. If it doesn't get him to get the message, at least would give you some room to calm down before dealing with the problem.
DS is the sort of child that finds it terribly amusing to see me get angry, so I have to be careful with my voice as even the slightest change in the tone, it's enough to set DS in a "lets get mummy anoyed" frenzy.
Well, from the pictorial evidence on your other thread, it is clear that your DS is a total angel. I suspect you may be jamming sections of your limbs into his gorgeous little mouth, and then pushing down on the top of his head, in order to get him to bite you.
If, however, he really is having a nibble now and again, I would second Chandra's idea of walking away from him.
DS1 was a bit of a biter, and he didn't understand that it wasn't all a great game, but us ignoring him really had an effect, and the phase didn't last long.
Ah yes HC - I had had wine last night so had clearly forgotten that I was forcing my limbs into his mouth
I'll try out the complete ignoring and walking away - thank you
My DS started biting at that age ... we found that putting him down if we were holding him and telling him " No - No biting!" - firmly, seemed to help.
But he bit my dh today ... after a few months of not biting. Like you, my dd never bit, so this is a new experience...
good luck. I'm finding that walking away and ignoring isn't working too well yet with our 1 year old when hes trantrauming ( hitting, kicking, biting, head banging, etc) as he doesn't notice coz hes too busy biting the carpet.
Ds (18months) can be a biter, and it tends to come in stages. The last time was about 6 weeks ago, when he started at a new cm. At first it was just the cm, then me.
Anyway, he bit me really hard, one saturday morning, and I was so angey I didn't trust myself to speak to him. Luckily he was due to have his nap anyway, so when he bit me, I instictively picked him up, changed him into his grobag and plonked him in his cot. All without saying a word.
And he hasn't bitten since. So I don't no if that was a coincidence or not.
DD is 16m and has been biting when overtired and particularly when her teeth are hurting.
I have been saying 'ouch no biting that hurts mummy' and then asking for a 'kiss better'. At the moment, she loves kisses better (for herself) at the slightest thing, so this has distracted her from further biting and also given her a way to make it better.
When you ignore them, how long do you ignore them for??
My 13mo dd has just started biting (done it a couple timesm me 2x, babysitter 1x). I think it might be cos she's teething (one just came in and other is popping it's head through) but ignoring might be useful for other things or if the biting continues. At the moment, my response was a VERY LOUD ow! and telling her no, you do not bite mummy. And then asking her to say sorry and kiss it better (she came over and stroked my face and kissed my leg where she chomped down). Later that day, the babysitter said she was about to bite her, stopped mid-bite and said "mummy." I'm hoping she gets the drift and won't do it again...
Bumbleweed, thats a lovely idea. I'm going to give it ago
p.s. in case it seemed that way, the very loud ow! was not intentional. It's really hard not to scream when someone is chewing on your leg... I will try my best to control myself next time...
DS find that so amusing that he insisted in hiting me to se if I would do it again!....
lmao - the chewing of legs can be very distracting!
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