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4 month old cries at everyone

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Tans1987 Thu 19-Jan-17 17:44:51

Hey ladies
I really need some advice!
My daughter is 4 months old, sleeps well, eats well, all in all a well behaved baby. However over the past two weeks she has all of a sudden taken a dislike to everyone apart from me or my partner. If anyone holds her, talks to her or even looks at her that isn't me or her dad she throws a massive trantrum, screams, squeals, cries and doesn't calm down unless we hold her. She is like this with grandparents, aunties, uncles literally everyone. It's really starting to upset me because I don't understand it. She was always held by people and has even stayed over at my mums before no problem. Any help or advice would be so appreciated! Xxx

Crumbs1 Thu 19-Jan-17 17:48:43

It's normal. Completely normal. Your baby has formed an attachment to you (essential for healthy, secure development). The baby has reached a stage where she distinguishes between people and she wants her mother. It's worrying when children don't go through an 'attached' phase. It will pass.

Tans1987 Thu 19-Jan-17 20:35:31

Thanks for the advice. Is there anything I can do to help her through it? If she's screaming with people do I just take her away or let her get used to them?

Crumbs1 Thu 19-Jan-17 22:45:41

I personally think best at this age to support the attachment, if possible. That said not everyone has circumstances that allow it and children need to be handed over to granny/ nursery or whoever. This doesn't mean they will end up sociopaths. You have to do what is right for your family.

missm0use Thu 19-Jan-17 23:20:00

Completely and utterly perfectly normal 4 month old behaviour! smile

missm0use Thu 19-Jan-17 23:25:41

Sorry posted too soon. Thing that helped was let DD get used to others first before handing her over, then let them hold her until she became upset and then took her back and calmed her down.

Passmethecrisps Thu 19-Jan-17 23:26:02

Mine went through a phase of shrieking hysterically when held by my best friend or my mum. That stage was fun. She would be held by randoms but not them.

It passes. Lots of cuddles and reassurance. She is just at the early stages of twigging that you and she are not the same being which is bound to be a bit intense when you think about it

Astro55 Thu 19-Jan-17 23:27:24

50/50 I had twins - one was like this - the other would go to complete strangers -

both have turned out just fine! Laugh it off - it will pass

LeopardPrintSocks1 Fri 20-Jan-17 07:23:15

Mine is still like this at 1 and I was.going to post about it just now. It's so horrible sad

OneForTheRoadThen Fri 20-Jan-17 16:30:46

@crumbs1 why do you say it's worrying if babies don't go through this phase? Not all do surely?

Crumbs1 Fri 20-Jan-17 17:26:01

All,babi s need to form proper attachment (usually to their mother) in order to develop healthily. I'm sure they'll be those who,say their babies were happy being passed around but yes, all babies should show a strong preference for their mothers over other adults. Most exhibit is this by crying when mother leaves room or hands them over.

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