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Help my DD hitting adults

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rachfran Fri 23-Feb-07 20:20:43

My DD is 21 months and over the last week she has started hitting me and DH. At beginning of week she was told NO you must not hit mummy and this seemed to be enough. Today she has repeatedly hit me, my mum and my dad. Again she was told NO but I moved her to the other end of room and sat her down. She seemed to think this was a game and continued. What do I do? Do I tell her No and ignore her for 1 minute or so, or do I continue to move her? I want to nip this in the bud asap.
All ideas please?

suzycreamcheese Fri 23-Feb-07 20:24:48

now this is good case for a colon!


tell her it hurts, pretend to cry
you dont do it...clasp her arm before she hits you to stop it...

i dont know i didnt sort of get it like this but think they think its game...

rachfran Fri 23-Feb-07 20:38:53


Jalexdra Fri 23-Feb-07 20:51:26

Both my dc's did/dd this . I say no, put them down immediately and walk out of the room with a very serious face. I think at 21 months most behaviour is for a reaction, so by withdrawing your attention it should nip it in the bud. It is with other people that it is more difficult. My ds is 3 and thinks it is marvelous when dd (20 months) does something naughty so he laughs which obviously eggs dd on.
I think where possible ignoring is the best answer.

Jalexdra Fri 23-Feb-07 20:51:54

Sorry, did/do this.

sunnysideup Fri 23-Feb-07 21:12:33

I think you did right to put her down and remove attention. At her age she will be distractible, so rather than letting her turn the hitting into a game, when you have said a firm 'NO' and put her down, start some other really interesting activity that you know she will want to get in on and let her come over and start that. I don't think at 21 months she needs to sit where you put her for any specific length of time; so long as she changes tack and comes to play nicely rather than hitting, then let her; you all need to move on.

If she were to persist then what we did with ds when he had this phase (he was older!) was to tell him that he would have a minute on his own in his room if he did it again. It was tough in some ways as he was hitting my mum who is his absolute slave and so adoring, and putty when it comes to ds, so when she had sole charge of him she wasn't really strong enough about it with him, which I think made it go on for a bit longer. But of course in the end the solution was for all involved with him to take the same approach;

But with your dd I think you all need to say No, then distract like mad, basically.

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