Hello parents
I'm writing this post at a moment of utter confusion and a real drop in confidence in my abilities and attitudes as a parent.
This is what's happened in a nut shell: the school have written to me and my husband to say that our daughter, who is 5 (in year 1), doesn't change her reading books often enough. It was a very judgemental letter which said things like "most children are being supported at home...Unfortunately, it appears that Ana blah blah", also that we are hindering her progress, and she may become a reluctant reader etc.
The letter was a surprise but the tone of it was a shock. It's correct that we don't insist on homework, but our beliefs are that we shouldn't. DD is at the reading level we've been told she should be at (blue, whatever that means) and the Xmas school report said she's meeting age expectations in all areas. Since when is that not enough? I wrote back explaining that, yes, we can start to enforce homework if necessary, but that we're not aware that there's an actual problem with her progress, and that we believe that she also needs rest, free play, and not to be put under too much academic pressure so young. She reads all sorts of stuff at home, from my grocery shopping to bits of books we read at bedtime, and to be her progress seems fine. She doesn't have to be an absolute Einstein at this young age, because I want her to keep loving school (and she does), and not become sick of it when there's so many years of studying ahead of her.
My argument was also that, as I'm a writer and an academic (I'm a full time lecturer at a university, teaching creative writing of all things!!!), I don't really foresee problems with my children becoming good readers because we are simply a family where books are a normal part of every day life. I'm a published writer, I read every day, I read to my children every night, I just think those things happen naturally and organically.
My daughter has read 35 books (this is from her reading diary) from the start of the academic year. I have no idea how many she was supposed to have read, but 35 books for a 5-year old to me sounds perfectly okay.
Well, now I've been invited in to meet in person with the teacher and the head teacher, to discuss my daughter's reading and the points I raised in my email. I feel utterly told off - I mean, invited to have a meeting with the head??? I almost can't believe the development of this situation.
I'm utterly confused, a little bit angry and also somewhat concerned.
Am I totally wrong here? Am I just being crazy, for thinking that they've gone a bit crazy in our elementary school education system?
Please help. Let me know your honest opinions. Thank you so much.
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Having a problem with DD's school - but I'm an academic
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WriterMum034 · 18/01/2017 10:39
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