Just looking for support and perspective on what I could have done differently with my 8yo tonight.
After his little brother went to bed I said he could have half an hour on his Nintendo DS, playing his Pokemon game. After half an hour I told him it was time to stop. He said he was "in the middle of a battle" so I let it slide for a bit. 10 minutes later I told him again, stop now. I told him over and over and he just kept playing. He is a good boy and he was getting more and more stressed while playing, clearly in its evil grip. So I said if you don't stop, there will be consequences. Still didn't stop. I told him again, loudly, and he said "i am sorry! This is a battle!" (They don't last longer han 6 minutes, though!).
So I am afraid I did lose my temper and not really seeing straight. I took a black bag and went to his room, putting most of his lego in it and took it out to the shed. He was extremely distressed by this point... yet still playing?!
So I went full force yelling, which I hardly ever do. He was scared. I said the price he paid for his extra 30 mins playing was most of his lego and he loses the Nintendo DS for a week. "If you can't stick to the rules, you can't play."
So there was lots of distress and screaming and sobbing and practically hyperventilating (mostly him but I was pretty upset too!). Finally got him to calm down by hugging him but refused to go back on what I said. Said nothing was broken, or thrown away, and I love him just the same (he always worries love is gone at every argument). I did agree to bring the Lego back in and put it in the garage because he was worried about it being stolen.
He in bed now. Hiccuping from sobbing so much, I can hear.
What would you have done? I feel like I should not have lost my temper, but also not sure what i should have done.
Ideas? Perspective? I feel awful because it got to such screaming distressing carnage and feel like I should have done something differently. Had such a hard day with my 3yo before all this began so I could not think clearly.
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Carnage over Nintendo DS tonight
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CookieTramp · 05/01/2017 20:56
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