Hi all, looking for some perspective here.
Just come back from a week spent visiting family and staying with my S-I-Ls. During that time, I had to put up with lots of comments about my DD's eating - she eats not too much at the best of times but was tired, run down with a cold and jet lagged which meant that she was eating less than normal, at least for the first few days until her appetite returned. She is also quite picky - always has been since she was weaned, very particular about textures, prefers foods that aren't too saucy, etc.
She is very slim, although we have had her height/weight checked by the doctor who said it was normal, but this fuels the fire for my in laws over her eating.
My S-I-L, along with the food debates, asked me if I've had her checked by the doctor for "developmental issues". I asked her what exactly she was talking about. She said that compared to her DD (my niece), she didn't see much difference developmentally, despite the fact that my niece is a year younger. For example, my niece can do a 100 piece jigsaw, my DD can also, but lacks confidence to try it without coaxing.
I am annoyed about my interfering in laws, but even so, I am now feeling niggling doubts about whether what she said is something I should worry about.
My DS is 9, and the oldest in his year, very bright, super confident, everything comes easily to him. While I don't think it's right to compare, my DD is the opposite in many wasy - shy, and lacking in confidence. She is one of the youngest in her class. She acts very young for her age - still loves Peppa Pig and other shows for younger kids as an example. She was particularly clingy to me throughout most of our trip, and in general really wants a lot of reassurance and hand holding to do most things. She has made a lot of progress in the last year on her reading and writing, but it is still well below average for her class. I've discussed this with her teacher who was not overly concerned - felt it was too early to test her for any learning difficulties, and that with extra help (she gets daily support on reading and writing) she will continue to make progress.
I don't even know what the issue could be if she is developing slowly. I also was not a massively confident child and didn't do terribly well for the first couple of years, but had a big leap forward later on. I am really torn, on the one hand I'm angry with myself for letting my S-I-L make me have doubts about my lovely, sweet DD, and I'm also scared that I'm not doing enough to get help for her if there is an issue. I've got someone in mind lined up to discuss her eating with to see what we can do there, but I just don't know who or where I could go to discuss if there is a developmental issue.
Or perhaps I'm just overthinking the whole thing and should tell my S-I-L to butt out.
Anyone have any advice? TIA
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CeeCee123 · 02/01/2017 23:20
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