Baby #2 Due and worried!

[user1469302797]

Morning all and HNY! Not sure I've ever posted before but I lurk and read a lot. I have a lovely little boy who was 2 in November and baby two is due in March. I'm really worried about coping with two. I'm a worrier by nature and I'm on long-term antidepressants for this. I'm worried about breastfeeding number two while having toddler to sort out; getting out the house with two; toddler very reliant on dunny still; toddler being jealous, he's already showing signs of this and is very clingy; coping after c section....... I like to be in control of things and I've come so far since my little boy. Some more history, baby 1 was IVF and baby 2 has been a huge shock!! I'm still getting used to the idea. I do feel that after the years and years of waiting for number 1 that I don't have any right to complain about anything and feel I have to be a super mum. MIL hinted the other day that although SIL'S house is a mess, she's so good with the kids. Then said, 'your house is so tidy.' So I added 'do you think I'm useless with my child?' My hormones feel all over place and I just don't feel I can talk to anyone IRL as they'll think I'm being ungrateful.

[JiltedJohnsJulie]

I know it's hard, but try not to listen to your Mil. Mine is lovely but still managed to drive me crazy when mine were little with her unhelpful comments.

As for coping, yes it will be different, it would be strange if it weren't, but there are things you can do to help prepare yourselves.

One good thing to do is to get your DS some books on getting a new baby. Your library should have some.

As for the bfing, it's just different. I found a sling helped enormously with DC2 as she didn't want to be put down. In a sling she would nap or look around while I did things like take DC1 to playgroup or cook his tea. Kellymom have some tips you may find useful here.

Another thing you may want to try is going to your local Bfing Groups before LO arrives. You'll probably find that most people were worried about number 2 and at the very least, you'll get to enjoy some adult conversation.

I'm sure you'll be fine but please talk to your MW and GP if you think you are struggling.