Almost 3 months ago, I gave birth to my beautiful DS who I adore with all my heart. However, he seems to be such an unhappy baby and with him being my first, I'm unsure whether this is just something that is normal for some babies or if it could point to something being wrong.
Basically, I cannot put my DS down and when I say that, I mean I can literally never put him down without him screaming save for when he goes down in his cot and sleeps for the night (which he's doing pretty well, 8 hours solid sleep stretch). When I say screaming, he will literally cry more than he does when he is due for a feed, he screams his head off but as soon as I hold him on my chest, he'll stop. Sometimes he'll sleep and sometimes he'll stay awake but lay quietly or interact with me/his dad.
He smiles at us, takes his feeds well and is having plenty of wet nappies but he just screams bloody murder whenever he's not held. Now don't get me wrong I adore my son and if I could, I'd cuddle him 24/7 but it's to the point I think I may be getting depressed. I can't eat a meal because if DS is down, he's screaming, I can't go to the toilet or sit down for 10 minutes and have a coffee. I can't bring myself to ever leave him crying because, although I know I've done everything I can for him needs wise, he's just too young to allow him to cry it out. It's to the point where, when DP is back from work in the evening, we can barely have one conversation about how our day went let alone have a cuddle and a kiss and then it's time for bed and we're both so tired we go straight to sleep. Many a time we've been convinced there must be a medical issue because of the intensity of his screams he sounds like he's in serious discomfort or pain and we know that a mothers comfort can sometimes be soothing for a poorly infant.
We've been to the doctors multiple times but all we get is "it's colic". I agree he probably has got colic but I was under the impression that even colicky babies were happy some of the time.
I know I must sound a selfish cow but it's just so stressful and so very upsetting to have a little boy who seems so unhappy. I'm exhausted and although everyone keeps telling me to enjoy this time, I'm finding myself wishing the next couple of months away hoping that it is just colic and will disappear after 4 months so that my little boy can be happy! I want nothing more than to watch him playing happily, smiling and laughing more.
Am I being totally ignorant as a first time mum and just missing the point that I have a DS who simply needs his mother a lot or could it point to something being wrong?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Talk to others about child development and behaviour stages here. You can find more information on our development calendar.
Behaviour/development
2 1/2 month old constant screaming when not held - help :(
7 replies
Becciilouisex3 · 31/12/2016 01:04
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.