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5yo starting to get out of control

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Flowerydems Wed 28-Dec-16 09:37:28

Hopefully someone on here will be able to help. This will be long as don't want to drip feed.

Ds was diagnosed with a genetic condition last year but has started school this year and apart from some sen help he seems to be getting on ok. He is hypermobile so tires really easily and isn't managing to write or concentrate very well but they are aware of this.

He is really well behaved at school, he doesn't like crowds and loud noises so he has a small group of friends that he sticks to and that's fine, and aside from a badly behaved boy that keeps hitting him (head and teachers are already keeping an eye on this child) he's doing well.

Until he's at home. The outbursts are getting severe and he's taking it out on his brother (3) ds2 is really well behaved and is quite advanced behaviour and communication wise in comparison so not sure if this is the reason.

The screaming and stamping has become a nightmare and I genuinely don't know what the best course of action is to try and help him control it. I'm in the process of trying the talking to him calmly and quietly when it gets out of control to force him to listen and that seems to help. However we're due dc3 in a week and I'm starting to stress about these outbursts which have increased to a few times a day during the holidays.

Any experience or help any one can give would be amazing cause I'm struggling with this now

Crumbs1 Wed 28-Dec-16 09:40:31

Naughty step. It's sad he has a genetic condition but kids who have SEN can still be naughty and need boundaries in same way other children do too. The longer it goes on, the harder it will be to break the cycle.

Flowerydems Wed 28-Dec-16 09:44:11

We have the naughty corner already, so that's fine.

We have a warning system with shouting but if there's a severe outburst aimed at dh or ds2 he goes straight in the corner. I should have put that in the post sorry. It doesn't seem to have the same effect on him though. He knows he's in the corner for doing something but sometimes I think he doesn't process it.

We have a debrief type thing after his time is done where we talk about why he was put there and what has to happen with apologies etc after

LivininaBox Wed 28-Dec-16 17:04:39

Is it linked to starting school? My DS has started this year, he gets exhausted and his behaviour at home is sometimes terrible. More sleep and lots of routine might help if this is the case?

LivininaBox Wed 28-Dec-16 17:06:14

Just to add, my DS has also struggled to adjust to the holidays, I think he misses the routine of school.

Flowerydems Wed 28-Dec-16 21:06:08

Thanks for responding, that's given me some hope it's just worse with the hols then. Maybe it is the routine thing. I've tried encouraging him to relax and lie down but ds2 make it clear he'd rather play with him than let him rest

user1477282676 Thu 29-Dec-16 09:39:25

Post on the Special Needs board will get more expert opinions and advice there...people are so lovely on there.

alweena Sat 31-Dec-16 17:07:06

His primitive reflexes might not be integrated causing behavioural problems. See

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