Is there something wrong with DD?(8 Posts)
I'm genuinely concerned for DD.
she is almost 3 years old and confident to the point of worrying. She has no fear at all. At her 2 yr check, the health visitor desribed her as "different and vibrant" and I wished I pushed her further.
At a wedding reception this evening and I've had to leave after just 1 hour. My DD kept on leaving my sight completely, never looks back to see where I am and constantly seems to annoy the other children with kisses, hugs, taking away their toys, following and touching them. She will speak to anyone, she would without a doubt leave with a fully grown stranger. She would ask for me after a few minutes, but she is just so fearless.
I watched other kids her age, dancing around the going back to their parents to check in every now and then, shy with other children initially then learning to play together. The other children just seemed annoyed by my DD as she ruined their games and got in their faces.
I spent the whole hour chasing around the reception room and up the corridor, even out of the building at one point. I just don't know what to do, I'm at my wits end and I'm shattered.
Is there something wrong here? Her personality? Or am I doing something wrong? I'm a teacher so feel I should know better!
My 2.6 year old is like this. She has no tether to me at all. My 5 year old needs to keep me in sight or she panics but her sister just does not seem to care at all. We've lost her a couple of times recently as she's just pottered off because she's decided to go home, or she's seen someone she knows in a shop and gone to speak to them.
It's never occurred to me that there's something wrong with her! She's just a bit different and special and independent and I admire her for her confidence and self assurance. I do worry what she'll be like as she gets older, it's going to be very interesting!!
Could you speak to HV and ask to meet her?
Mine is 3 in January and would cheerfully run off without looking back. I know it's unusual, in that friends kids seem glued to their parents. No fear over our bond, he was born sociable and nosy. It is hard work though. I lost him in a huge garden centre last Christmas. He was happily investigating.
My dd is 6 now but has always been like this. Would not hold my hand, run fast and out of sight whenever she could, climbs trees, junps off high climbing frames. Guards everything fiercely, etc. It would result in hige tantrums between 18 months and 5. She is much better now but still very daring. She chats to anyone even ic what she is saying doesn't make sense. She is fine though and lovely. I keep telling myself that these qualities will stand her in good stead for adulthood.
my friend could have written this post. now her DD is 5, she has calmed down a LOT. your DD sounds lovely, just a bit boisterous - as she gets more socially clued up, she will learn what works!
if you are worrying though, why not speak to your HV, to put your mind at rest.
Dd1 was exactly like this . An absolute handful with no need to be around me whatsoever . She is now a really really mellow , sensible 11 year old . She calmed down massively over the years / in fact people don't believe me when I describe what she was like!
My DD has been like this since the age of 3 she is insanely confident and happy but tends to dominate a situation and is really full of beans and in Friend's faces. I was the same as a child. Her reacher has recently brought up her attention span. It's shocking in a classroom setting. I think it's ADHD and we are watching and seeing with the school
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