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Is throwing toys normal

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ZarinaA · 17/12/2016 08:04

My toddler is 25 months and keeps throwing her toys or other things she finds on the table (e.g. Coaster) ( nb. I've baby proofed the house). Is this normal at this age? I keep slapping her hands and saying, honey don't throw your toys cos they'll break and you won't be able to play with it , but she just ends up saying no mummy and hit me. Is there anything else I can do? I read time out is not really useful

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HoundOfTheBasketballs · 17/12/2016 08:27

It's perfectly normal. I'm not sure if slapping her hands is really beneficial. Don't wonder why she hits you if you hit her first.

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TeaBelle · 17/12/2016 08:29

Yes - Google trajectory schema. Tell her what youbwant her to do eg play nicely, keep toys on the floor/table rather than using negatives as they are hard to understand.

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BToperator · 17/12/2016 08:31

Totally normal At 2, I'd imagine most her her toys are designed to be toddler proof and therefore not easily breakable anyway aren't they? I would stop the slapping, keep anything breakable away from her and let her get on with it.

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JosephineMaynard · 17/12/2016 08:33

Sounds pretty normal.

Agree telling her what you want her to do as TeaBelle suggests is worth a try.

I've also temporarily confiscated toys in the past if throwing has started to get out of hand.

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Whatthefreakinwhatnow · 17/12/2016 08:35

Totally normal for a 2 year old.

FYI, you can just say 2 now, you don't have to use months for an older child Smile

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Ohdearducks · 17/12/2016 08:38

Please don't slap her hands it's just part of her development and will make her feel awful.
As above, she's working through a trajectory schema, help her with this learning by doing throwing games with her and lots of floor play as suggested above. Lots of physical outdoor activity is of benefit at this age too.

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insancerre · 17/12/2016 08:43

Totally normal, as everyone has said
Please don't slap her hand
Encourage the throwing by Doug activities that support her trajectory scheme
Rolling things down a slide is a favourite
Hoopla, skittles and even scrunched up newspaper can all be thrown
Or just buy her a ball pool for christmas

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RebelRogue · 17/12/2016 09:17

Dd went through this stage. We just kept reinforcing that only balls are for throwing. Said no when needed,removed the toy,if something actually got broken it went in the bin and nit replaced etc. She got it in the end. I don't see how smacking her hand is supposed to help or teach her anything.

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Lottapianos · 17/12/2016 09:20

You could stop slapping your child and then acting surprised when she slaps you back. That would be a good start.

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MamaYoyo · 17/12/2016 09:25

I'm having this problem too. DS is just a little older than your child. Unfortunately, on Thurs, he threw an empty biscuit tin from just in front of me hitting me squarely between the eyes, cutting my nose and giving me two black eyes. So we're now on intensive no throwing training.

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insancerre · 17/12/2016 09:30

Instead of having a no throwing rule you should have things that he can throw
Throwing is the beginning of learning about cause and effect and will lead on to critical thinking, allowing children to problem solve
All essential skills your child will need for school

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TheCrowFromBelow · 17/12/2016 09:36

Roll things to each other.
Swap the hard things for softer toys, or light ball pool balls and aim for a box or a bin, lots of praise when she does that.
Please don't slap her.

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ZarinaA · 17/12/2016 09:47

Thanks for the tips. I get it that she's copying me when I slap her so will stop that now. I do explain things to her but not sure if is going in
Cos she'll then say something random like mummy door! Not sure if it's a distraction technique but am keen to hear if your toddlers did this . Do I just keep at it, i.e. Explaining and be consistent?

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RebelRogue · 17/12/2016 09:54

Toddlers have the attention span of a newt. Again,totally normal.

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insancerre · 17/12/2016 17:31

Yes
It's normal
Keep explaining and be consistent

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corythatwas · 17/12/2016 19:15

Yup, totally normal. You can't explain anything to a 2yo and expect them to remember that and abide with it forever after. It's a much more long-term process; you keep repeating the same explanation (preferably in positive terms, so "put down gently" rather than "don't throw") again and again, and eventually (after a year or so Grin) it will sink in. Also, bear in mind that throwing is also a skill she needs to learn- so what you are expecting is actually far more complicated than "don't throw"; it is "understand that this object should be thrown under these circumstances but not under these, whereas this object is never to be thrown". She will get there in the end, but it's quite a complex thing.

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uhoh2016 · 18/12/2016 19:59

My ds is almost 2 and he throws anything gets his hands on not just his toys I've had many a juice cup/toy/remote/ phone/coaster etc etc launched at my head. I wish I knew how to stop it 😔

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