22 month old doesn't talk, doesn't point

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Chhalma Tue 13-Dec-16 14:57:35

Hi Everyone
My 22 month old son doesn't talk not even point , or wave or clap. Doesn't respond to his name always, sometimes does. Doesn't follow instruction for instance if I say bring ur teddy or put something in bin. Even ask to share something he is playing just ignore. Does'nt move his eye if I want to show him something (look at this car or something) Spends hour after hour with small dish to collect stuff like crayon , building block , garlic everything. Throw everything everywhere and
empty rubbish bin. Doesn't draw. If I want to draw he will take my color and throw or collect in his dish. Not interested to listen story only loves to turn the Book pages.He is very good boy. Self conscious . He loves his little sister who is 3 month old. If I am busy try to keep himself busy with collecting thing in a dish.not interested to play with toy very much. Even not in new thing. His playing is very simple and same pattern. Sonetime he walks with toes and flap his hand. Sometimes round in a circle.
I googled and all of his signs are ASD syoptom. I am very worried if he has autism . It made me sick. Can't think anything. Is there anyone who had similar situation ? I appreciate ur any response . Thank u so much.

Best regards
Very worried mom

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Miloarmadillo1 Tue 13-Dec-16 15:03:18

Hi Chalma. My DD doesn't have autism but has special needs so I can relate to the worry. Just take it one step at a time, make an appointment with your GP and ask for referral to a paediatrician. I've found it so helpful to talk with other parents whose children are not following a normal developmental pathway, we go to a group at our local children's centre and one run by the local parents and carers association. You will get the best info on what help is available from other families in a similar position. There's also a special needs section on Mumsnet where I'm sure you'll get plenty of support. Just do one thing at a time though, don't over think it.

Chhalma Tue 13-Dec-16 19:19:37

Hi Miloarmadillo1
Thank u very much for ur quick replay. Was ur Dd had same condition as mine?How old is ur DD? How is she doing. After certain time will she be recovered?
I will go to support section. Thank u for ur advice.

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Msqueen33 Tue 13-Dec-16 19:25:41

I'd ask for a referral to a paediatrician. Just so they can monitor. Has he had his hearing and eye sight checked? Two of my dd's have autism and he sounds a lot like my middle dd when she was little. If it is autism they don't ever recover as it's a neurological condition meaning their brain is wired differently. But they do change a lot as they get older.

Miloarmadillo1 Tue 13-Dec-16 20:07:15

My DD has a form of epilepsy that causes brain damage and global development delay. About a third of children with her condition also have an autism diagnosis but she is not raising concerns in that respect so far. She is 2.5yrs old and was diagnosed nearly 2 years ago. I remember how scary it is to realise something is not right that alters your whole vision of how the future might be. I have lots of friends that have children with ASD diagnosis that attend the types of groups I mentioned. Early diagnosis makes getting the right services on board to help easier, but you can usually attend support groups without having a diagnosis in place.

Chhalma Tue 13-Dec-16 21:02:03

Hi msqueen33 and Miloarmadillo1
Thank u very much for ur support. We have seen a paediatrician and she did some blood test and chromosome test. Waiting for result. Pead said it could be normal delay or autism. And reffered to SEN although we have not get any letter or confirmation any thing. I am just waiting for result and his treatment . Can't wait to see his progress. Want to know his future. Now every second seems a year to me.

Thank you

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Chhalma Tue 13-Dec-16 21:04:39

Hi msqueen33
How old ur two Dd now. Are they going to mainstream school? How r they doing. R they very distinguishable to other children from their ages?

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Libby34 Tue 13-Dec-16 21:07:28

My niece was a bit like this, she turned 2 in July. She started nursery in September and does seem to be coming on a bit. She was late with everything, didn't crawl until 14 months, didn't walk until almost 2 etc. I'd definitely push to see a professional, but try not to worry too much, they do all do it in their own time flowers

Chhalma Tue 13-Dec-16 21:14:03

Hi Libby34
Did ur niece seen by peadiiatrician? What did they told. Do u know she is premature or full term baby? I know premature baby r bit slow but they will catch up around 3yr. In my case DS is full term baby. That's make me worried more.

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Miloarmadillo1 Wed 14-Dec-16 09:30:01

It's good that you are in the system. Everything takes an age and it's very hard to be patient when you are worried! Let us know how you get on.

Chhalma Wed 14-Dec-16 10:01:42

hi Miloarmadillo1
I will let u know.

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mscongeniality Wed 14-Dec-16 10:06:21

Hi OP,

I think you commented on my thread about my DS, with your concerns.

I am in the same boat as you somewhat, just trying to figure out what's going on. My DS doesn't have any words yet and that's why I got him referred to Paed.
You're doing the right thing by getting him checked early. I've done lots of reading and the key thing is that early intervention is key to getting the most improvement.

All the best x

Libby34 Wed 14-Dec-16 22:22:09

Sorry for the late reply OP. My niece wasn't seen by a paediatrician, no. But RE her late walking she was undergoing the process of an assessment on her hips, but before the appointment arrived she learned to walk so the appt wasn't deemed necessary anymore. I know the nursery are keeping a careful eye on her development. No she wasn't premature. I'd take your little one to the GP and go from there. There could be a problem but honestly I'd try not to worry too much until you get a professional opinion fsmileflowers

user1477282676 Thu 15-Dec-16 00:01:04

My friend's son was like yours, he does have a diagnosis of Autism now he's 5.

He is in mainstream school and has learned to speak, he is doing very well and has friends. He sees a speech therapist but not to help him talk...but to help him learn to socialise.

Chhalma Thu 15-Dec-16 07:43:18

Thank u user1477282676. U gave me a huge relief . I am hopeful now.

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user1477282676 Thu 15-Dec-16 13:04:32

And he will always be the same boy that you love...no matter what happens. If he has a diagnoses or not, he is still your own baby that you love and nothing can change that.x

Chhalma Thu 15-Dec-16 23:49:14

Today we have received the pead report. It says
1. Significant global developmental delay
2. Significant speech and language delay
3. Special communication difficulties

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WeirdnessOfDoom Fri 16-Dec-16 22:44:55

So-what's the conclusion OP? Sorry to jump your thread but exactly the same boat here. DS is 2.5 and no communication at all.We've had hearing test that hasn't brought anyting new and seeing Autism consultant soon.

WeirdnessOfDoom Fri 16-Dec-16 22:49:18

I meant what's next? Are they going to refer him somewhere else? Have you eliminated ear glue and possible hearing loss? Sorry for interfering

Iamthecatsmother Fri 16-Dec-16 22:56:22

Hi, go to your GP and ask for a referral. You need to be firm, don't get fobbed off. My DS is 12 and he does have high functioning asd. It took about four years to get a diagnosis which we finally got aged 5. The first thing was his lack of speech. He didn't point, clap hands etc he was and still is very tactile, a gentle kind boy.

Just remember that many young children have some autistic traits. If it turns out to be ASD, it's not the end of the world. He's still the same child, your ds. My DS is a real character, hard work at the moment as we're in puberty, but he's lovely and I'm very proud of him

Iamthecatsmother Fri 16-Dec-16 22:59:45

I might just add, my DS is st mainstream secondary school, he can swim, he's done martial arts, he's talented at golf and art. He's done gymnastics, cross country running. He's been away with school on a residential trips. He needs help socialising and emotional support. There's hope smile

bluechameleon Fri 16-Dec-16 23:08:12

I teach children with special needs including ASD. It is good that you have this report from the paediatrician because it will help you to access support. Early intervention can make such a difference so you need to be pushing for as much help as possible. There is a lot of excellent training available that will help you to help your son. I would recommend looking into Intensive Interaction as the basic principles of this can be easily applied without formal training and it can have quite rapid, tangible effects with some children.

Chhalma Sat 17-Dec-16 00:12:38

Dear WeirdnessOfDoom the letter a can see it was cc to Gp, health visitor, early support and autism clinic. My son's hearing test is due on 22december. We think hearing is not a problem for him .

I don't know what is next. But when we meet pead she told us my DS will get help at home weakly or in two weeks one session. She is going to refer. I don't know anything else. When they will start what they will do nothing.

Do I need to see Gp and get referral ? Where should I push in?

Dear lamthecarsmother
Very hopefull to hear the progress of ur son. What is high functional Asd? Is it serious condition or mild?

Dear bluechemelion what is intensive interaction ? Where can I get the training?

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KarlosKKrinkelbeim Sat 17-Dec-16 00:19:47

He sounds very much like my ds who was dx with asd at 2.5. That seems a thousand years ago now! He is 10 and doing really well and the apple of me and his dads eye. He's the best little boy we could ask for as yours is to you and none of that will change. Persist in getting diagnosis and then push your lea to tell you what help they will offer. Learn about ABA - most people do not have funds to put in place a full programme but parents can learn the principles themselves.

Iamthecatsmother Sat 17-Dec-16 12:40:10

HFA (high functioning autism) means there's no intellectual impairment. My DS is a bright boy, described by his educational psychologist as 'phenomenally bright'. A lot of what you described reminded me of my DS. It's a huge spectrum, each person is different in how it affects them. When my DS was small, I was beside myself as I didn't understand it. Try not to despair, insist on getting him assessed, early intervention is key.

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