All my 2 year old does is cry, he cries for most of the day. Screams because I tell him no, screams because he's been naughty and goes on time out, hits his younger sister because he's frustrated that he can't put the blocks together. Screams his lungs out because he wants postman pat and then changes his mind literally when I put it on to fireman and screams because postman pat is on.
Screams and throws his food at every meal, rarely eats. Cries for water and then spills it all over the floor on purpose. Screams because he wants his dad and not me. He is so naughty it's unreal and I am at my wits end.
I cannot take one more day of screaming & crying. My one year old daughter gets so left out because I am constantly running around after my son, he's purposely destructive.
I don't know what to do anymore... I actually want to leave home. As awful as that sounds I can't do one more day of screaming.
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TheManicMummy · 06/12/2016 16:06
I would try and work my way through a sensory diet, keep notes or photos in case you ever feel you need more help when he is older. This is a comprehensive list with ideas for all ages so not all will be useful now:
//www.ot-innovations.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/sensory_diet_checklist_2007pdf.pdf
If there is any input that calms him down a bit then you might find a little bit of respite. At that age, my son was happier naked or in a bath, not for a purpose which just brought out his oppositional defiance, but just for the feel of it.
You could try ear defenders (but don't do what I do and wear them yourself 
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Try to remember he doesn't have the skills to achieve what he needs to do, rather than focusing on the behaviour that is a result of that. He might not be able to switch between tasks or allow for flexibility of outcomes. So while the tablet was a great idea, perhaps he doesn't have the necessary skills to go with that just yet. If watching a screen calms him, let him be calm for yours and his own sanity, it's not bad parenting. You will be able to catch your breath.
It's sometimes worth going back a stage or more, so even though he is still very little, if he can't put something like Duplo together, what would you give a younger child? You could take them away and try plain blocks, or something with velcro that will do the sticking for him.
I have used backward chaining a lot for my son. There is an article here:
//www.verywell.com/backward-chaining-3105608 Ignore the fact that it is aimed at special needs, if a technique works it works. So at his age, you might build something except for the last part and ask him to do it. He might respond to the confidence that will give him.
As far as eating goes, if you haven't already, ask your gp to refer you to an OT to check he has proper muscle tone and mobility around his mouth and throat. They can check he is developing the eating skills he needs. If these aren't in place it can be terrifying for a child, the fear of choking is overwhelming - and can affect their whole day. If he hasn't developed something as you would expect, they will be able to give you exercises or equipment to help.
I would also say even at two, it's helpful to validate his feelings. So if he is angry you can name that feeling for him. It doesn't mean you are condoning his behaviour. If he screams and throws food, you can still say "I can see you are really mad." without it being permission to do it.
You can see now why I asked if you wanted any suggestions, I do go on and on and on.
I'm not a professional but I think it can be really hard to tell at this young age what is a "normal" developmental stage, and what behaviours require more attention.
DS went through a phase of lining up toy cars. Every day, for ages, and it went on for weeks and weeks. It made me wonder whether there was something going on, and I kept looking for early signs of autism etc. If you look hard enough, you will find them.
He's older now, and I don't worry about his behaviour anymore (at least not in that way).
I really don't want to downplay your oconcerns though, and you sound like you have all the right professionals involved already who will hopefully be able to help in the long run if something is going on (even if they are being slow).
I just wanted to say that there is a really broad range of what is normal and what is concerning. "normal" doesn't make it any less challenging sometimes. But remember he is still a baby really, only two years old which is young still for potty training and language. Early days. And a difficult stage for him emotionally, having been 'replaced' and as the baby of the family.
My son struggled with that transition and it definitely contributed to some of his most difficult behaviours. I remember having to remind myself that he was only a baby, because compared to his newborn sister he seemed all grown up (at the age of 20 months!). In hindsight, I was definitely expecting too much of him.
Sorry, this got very long. I identify with your situation, perhaps it shows 
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