Three year old boy frightened of parties, noise, bouncy castles, crowds, soft play...

[ToffeeAndFudge]

My three year old is generally confident, noisy, energetic and happy. He absolutely loves nursery and loves nothing more than running around with other children of the same age. But he's petrified of birthday parties, unfamiliar noises, crowds, bouncy castles, large Christmas characters in displays, glittering Christmas trees, soft play areas... I've bought ear defenders ready to try to tackle the noise issue, but the visuals side is frustrating because it's difficult to avoid these things when out and about. Any suggestions?

[SpotTheDuck]

May help him to have one thing to focus on - like a fidget toy/favourite toy/iPad - if he knows he can retreat to play with that and block out everything else when it gets overwhelming that may help?

For a lot of people those situations are hard because there's too much going on, but it's pretty much impossible to avoid them so finding ways to block out the "excess" is a good strategy.

[MistressMolecules]

My 14 year old doesn't cope well if there is a lot going on. Visually as well as noise. As SpotTheDuck stated a tangle or some other stim toy may help (she uses tangles, playdough, anything that she can concentrate on when out and about).

[Witchend]

Get his hearing tested.

Really.
Ds has glue ear and loud noises are physically painful to him, which apparently is quite common. he used to react to any loud noises.
Although his main objection to the local bouncy castle at that age was it had a face. He didn't dare take his eyes off it in case it attacked him.

[Cucumber5]

What happens at birthday parities

[LuchiMangsho]

Mine hates parties and loud noise as well. Always has. I don't force it. These things are meant to be fun. He refused to go to his school infant disco. I didnt push it. I was off early from work and had a nice time. If you think it is hampering him in any real way then you might want to find ways of dealing with it. As it stands DS prefers smaller quieter groups and always has. Has settled into school beautifully and is doing very well and has a lovely bunch of friends. So if he doesn't like soft play or big crowds I am not that fussed.
BUT you know your child and if you think something is 'off' then perhaps ask for some help to deal with it.

[Yamadori]

Mine used to hate parties and big gatherings, what worked for us was to get there as early as possible while it was fairly quiet. It seemed to be a thing about walking into a big crowd that was the problem, but she was all right as long as she could get used to the space before the crowds built up. If we did it that way round she was fine.