My 8 year old daughter is a past master at winding people up. She has been ever since I can remember.
We currently have a start chart n place which has been working ok for weeks -it's not the first time we have tried this but it is the first time it has worked. Until today, we've only had one breakdown.
She sometimes seems totally unable to control it, unable to stop it, and appears to really enjoy the sense of power it gives her, even if she is at the same time getting sad about being warned that she will lose her star (she gets three warnings).
I try and stay calm as I know any pyrotechnics fromm me or her brother is fuel to the fire, although today I did lose my temepr with her and gave her a proper row. I hate to do this as I usually try and build her self esteem and encourage good behaviour through praise (and the start chart is expressed in this way). Giving her a row just runs her down in a way that is counter-productive.
My question is, can anyone give me any insight into why she does it, apart from the sense of power, how to divert it and any other tricks apart from the chart and more than anything else, can you tell me if it is normal. It's not something me or her brother do. It's not in our nature but it certainly seems to be in hers and I am at a bit of a loss to understand it.
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Children who are deliberately annoying
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margaritasbythesea · 22/11/2016 08:54
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