Punishment for wetting himself

[essieestherson]

My ds was 3 in September. He pretty much potty trained himself from about 2 and a half. No accidents for months.

Since my dd was born in August he has completely gone the other way.... it is getting worse and worse and now he is at the point where he will wet himself every single time he needs to go. Whether we are at home, out, he's wearing clothes, he's naked.

He doesn't even seem to notice he's doing it now. Just wees all over the floor and wonders off.

I have tried talking to him about it, he just says he doesn't know why he does it. I have tried taking him every hour to try and go but he will refuse to go and then wets himself 5 minutes later...

I really don't know what to do anymore! He gets through at least 3 pairs of trousers a day!

I know you are not supposed to tell children off when they have accidents, but I'm not sure if this may be the way to go... considering he has been completely potty trained and now just seems to wet himself on purpose..

Any advice welcome!

[2014newme]

Back to basics
No punishment🙄 but lots of rewards whatever works for your child, stickers, chocolate buttons etc

[essieestherson]

Not sure if putting him back into nappies would be an option but it seems like a huge step backwards!

[Justmuddlingalong]

I think punishing him might cause resentment towards the new baby. Put him back in pull ups and try again later.

[farfarawayfromhome]

Oh bless him. It seems a clear reaction to the new baby? Can you put him back in nappies
And try again in a few months?

FWIW MY DD is 3 and mainly refuses the potty:...we are going at her pace and not forcing it...

[InfiniteSheldon]

My ds did this I put him back in nappies and he came back out of them a couple of months later

[essieestherson]

Yes I may try the rewards thing tomorrow...See how well it works! If not I guess I'll have to go back to nappies for a while...

[BubbleGumBubble]

Please dont punish him. Hes 3.

There is a new baby on the scene and he probably does not know where he stands because hes 3.

Just gove hom time and reassurance. Poor little lamb.

[essieestherson]

I never really was planning to punish him. My husband keeps pushing the idea as he thinks that would be the best way but I said that it will probably do more damage then good!

[OrionsAccessory]

Put him back in nappies while you deal with the actual reason behind the wetting.

[JunosRevenge]

Dear God, don't even think of punishing him. He's only 3, ffs!!!

Put him back in pull-ups and reward him when he remembers.

[essieestherson]

Okay. Don't worry I won't punish him!

[Ineedmorelemonpledge]

My DS went like this after potty training.

Turned out after years of appointments for UTI and a change of country where we saw a specialist that he had Urethral Valves.

If he doesn't know, or can't feel it, try and establish if he finds it painful to urinate and he's holding it back as long as he can.

It's very rare but worth ruling out, that or uti.

[GrubbyWindows]

We had this with DS, also 3, when DD was born. What worked was getting off his case completely, not even mentioning the potty once in the day, just cleaning up with good grace and moving on (v hard to do!!!!).
I did keep insisting on sittting on the potty before going out (no leaving until he had sat on the potty, doesn't matter if anything comes out), and the same before bed.
There was about a week where we had to bite our tongues ALL THE TIME, and it's basically been fine since. You have to really hold your nerve though, both of you. And be a good actor as you say "oh, let's just have a quick shower then" rather than "aaaaaaaaaa I knew you were about the s*it yourself again why why why why why aaaaaa"

[Felyne]

It's a normal reaction at his age unfortunately. He'll get there again.

[thethoughtfox]

Common regression when a new baby steals all your parents' attention. Nappies and lots of love and attention for now

[BathshebaDarkstone]

DS1 "forgot" how to feed himself when DD1 was born. He was 14 months. I had one on the tit and I was spoonfeeding the other one!

[Rockpebblestone]

You could get him the towelling training pants with a waterproof liner built in from Boots. They hold about 1 wee in so it does not go on clothes or furniture but they will feel pretty wet and uncomfortable with one in. They are good as they are washable but also unlike a nappy or pull up - they really don't stay dry.

Apart from that keep taking him to the toilet at set times throughout the day to give him opportunity to go. This can help as it does not require the child to have to make the decision to break off from an enjoyable activity themselves. Eventually going to the toilet becomes a non optional part of a daily routine which is accepted.

[P1nkP0ppy]

Try doing a star chart with him, definitely don't punish him poor little boy!
He's not doing it deliberately or to annoy you, he's probably reacting to the new baby.
Loads of praise when he 'helps' you and one to one time as often as you can.