2 year old - naughty?

[user114114]

Hello all

My son is 27 months old, he just doesn't listen, if he's naughty I try to explain to him what he's done and he looks away and talks about something else

I feel he literally ignores what I'm saying, he's 100 miles an hour from the moment he wakes to the moment he goes to sleep

He misbehaves over dinner and refuses to eat just pushing it away saying he doesn't like it

Is he naughty / potential ADHD or is this normal 2 year old behaviour?

[user1468594353]

Does he go to nursery? Or are you with him 24/7? Do you have any other children?

[user114114]

He's with a child minder so only with him on weekends and evenings

No other children

[neolara]

Sounds pretty normal. 2 year olds can be bloody hard work, especially young 2 year olds. Impulsive, not great with cause and effect so they don't really get explanations or consequences, no common sense, independent. Aaagh - remember it well. Gets better after about a year. (sorry!)

[MyWineTime]

He's 2. This is perfectly normal 2-year-old behaviour.
Relax a bit. Try to keep positive in your language and tone as much as you can. Go and scream into a pillow when you can't.

[LuluNTutu]

Sounds normal to me. I posted a very similar question when DS was 2. He's now nearly 4 and, although still very active, has calmed down a lot.

[Enidblyton1]

Sounds like my 2 yr old - pretty normal!
Have you asked Childminder how he is with them? If he is with the childminder all day, he's probably reserving his worst behaviour for you (when he is tired) at the end of the day.
Keep telling yourself it will get easier (that's what I do and I'm beginning to convince myself!!)

[user1468594353]

Mine was an angel at nursery then saved it all for me in the evenings and weekends. Then he went through the phase of bot eating. I did a similar post about this because I thought something was unusual. Just turns out it's terrible twos and comes and goes. Plenty of distractions ( they never know what they want) and keep as calm as you can be with the tone of your voice. At this age they have so many emotions and don't know how to express themselves. Mines only 2.5 and I'm still learning but feel much more confident knowing I'm not the only one. The not eating thing was scary. Other half said " I don't want a skinny baby, you must eat your dinner. " we had tantrums for alomost a week at dinner time but then I gave in, got advice from MN and knowing that he ate everything (including seconds!) at nursery I just calmly offered the food when we all sat together,he never touched it, when we had finished eating I offered one more time and then calmly said "ok it's going in the bin. They won't go hungry and are constantly testing their patience. Annoying because I always cook from scratch. I know I went a bit off subject but this is coming! It stressed me out like mad.
With his tantrums I try to distract him quickly and lots of cuddles .

[user114114]

Thanks all

He's the same with the child minder and sometimes bites other children out of frustration

We are however changing him to a nursery as we all (including the CM) think he needs it

I guess FTM this is a learning curve, feels like forever but when it's over it will have been a phase! He can be very loving at time