Hi,
DS3 is 6. The past few months I have noticed an increase in the following issues:
Getting overly upset when being told off for unwanted behaviour - wails, runs off and tells us "you think I'm stupid don't you!"
Foot stamping/lobbing toys when asked to share item/get off devices if he's been asked nicely.
Sulking over things that don't go his way.
We have a pretty happy, fairly laid back homelife but with discipline when necessary which will involve a stern voice and maybe sitting on the bottom step if someone needs to calm down. HIs siblings are DS1 who is 10 and DD2 who is 9 so they don't tend to go on the step any more but did when they were toddlers. DS3 will put himself on the step as a form of "self punishment" I suppose. When he gets really upset he threatens to hurt himself (scratching or pinching but doesn't tend to follow through as we seem to have managed that.)
In the past we hae used a reward chart which he responds quite well to, but they tend to be for positive behaviour like getting ready for school/bed nicely.
I guess the question is would a reward chart be a good idea for this and if so how would you format it? I'm having a mental block over the whole thing really as I find this behaviour quite trying.
For background, he is quite a shy child, reluctant to talk to adults and some children, seems to have a big issue with "getting it wrong" so if he knows the answer to a question will still say it very quietly even if it is correct and gets sad/upset if he is corrected. (My eldest son is the world's biggest pedant so will correct everything going). He does respond well to praise and positive reinforcement so I am thinking reward chart, just can't think how to format it.
Sorry it's long, thanks if you've got this far.
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Need tips on helping 6yo DS manage his reactions/emotions
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FriedPisces · 25/10/2016 15:47
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