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18 month old crying at everything?

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twocultures · 24/10/2016 13:22

And I mean banshee scream followed by sitting/lying on the floor and crying and sometimes forcing screams.

He has started crying as soon as he doesn't gets what he wants and how he wants it e.g. I would always prepare him a snack in the kitchen take and he'd come with me to the lounge where we'd put it on the table sit him on his little chair and he'd snack away, today I put some blueberries in a bowl for him and said 'come on DS lets take these into the lounge for you' and as I took a step towards the room he screamed threw himself on the floor and cried + refused to get picked up.

Earlier he had a tantrum because I wouldn't let him pinch my face, yesterday he screamed and arched his back and would not be consoled as DP was cuddling him (DS cuddles a lot after his afternoon nap) and he sat down on the sofa with him as he was getting heavy. Again not long ago he started throwing a wooden toy at my face, when I said no he kept laughing and doing it even more, when I took the toy away he tantrumed again.

Just now he was pointing to the snack cupboard, I took out a flapjack and showed it to him and said 'would you like a flapjack DS?' he nodded so I unwrapped it and passed it to him and instead of taking it he threw another tantrum.


Am I doing something wrong? I'm open to suggestions!

Also this past week his routine has changed a bit as I work afternoons so he's at his grandmas for about 1-2 hrs a day before DP picks him up .

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ElspethFlashman · 24/10/2016 13:26

Tantrums start at 18 months so he's bang on time.

The book Toddler Taming is good on how to manage them. You're not doing anything wrong - he's just trying to assert his independence. It's a normal part of development. Distraction is always your first recourse, but the book is very interesting.

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redheadbarmaid · 24/10/2016 14:20

I've got one like this! Ds is 15 months and most things seem to piss him off these days haha!
I'm putting it down to frustration at not being able to communicate properly yet and keeping my fingers crossed that it's a phase

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twocultures · 25/10/2016 09:14

It's just so unlike him Blushhe's had tantrums before but never with that frequency or with that type of anger.

My distraction attempts just seem to make it worse lol.

Oh how fun!

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buckyou · 25/10/2016 16:10

My DD is just like this. She is 16 months. We went to the supermarket the other day and she had 5 meltdowns in the space of about 1/2 an hour.

It's so hard isn't it I feel like I must be doing something wrong but she doesn't understand much so not sure what can be done. Let's hope it's a phase!

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Doje · 25/10/2016 16:14

Could he be hurting that you don't know about? Teeth, or a sore throat? Mine always go overly dramatic like that when poorly. Honestly, I'm not an over user of Calpol, but you could try giving him a dose and see if it gets better.

Or tired?

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StarryIllusion · 25/10/2016 21:44

No he's pretty much on schedule. My DS used to have some corkers at this age. Ride it out and don't let him get away with shit, I swear they grow out of it. Best way I ever stopped one of my DS's ones was by dragging him along by the ankle through marks and spencers. He was right across the aisle, howling like a banshee and biting me every time I tried to get him up. So I grabbed his ankle and slid him out of the way and he immediately stopped screaming and started laughing so I dragged him the rest of the way to the tills and by the time we got there he was laughing so hard he had forgotten what he was screaming for. God I got some strange looks.

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