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Help dd 3.11 has started coming out with the grossest things and I am at a loss !!!!

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whatisthepoint · 09/02/2007 15:14

Hope you can help! In the last 3 weeks or so my DD who is 4 next month has started coming out with the most grossest things. Hundreds of times a times a day its 'Mummy Mummy I've just stuck my finger up my bum and smelt it' or 'Mummy Mummy I've just ate my bogies' or 'Mummy Mummy I've just trumped on you' Have absolutely no idea what it going on, I mean it can be a dozen times in one hour she is continually coming out with these things !!!
I have tried telling her that its not nice to say these things etc, I'e tried ignoring it but this phase doesnt seem to be going away !!
Anyone else experience this ???
I know this sounds quite funny, but TBH is getting quite embarassing as she has started coming out with these things when we're out with people

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WigWamBam · 09/02/2007 15:17

My response was always "That's nice, darling", said with a completely straight face, and then walk away. Once it loses it's shock value, there's no point in saying it so they stop.

manitz · 09/02/2007 15:23

mine said 'mummy these knickers are making my fanny itch' loudly in m and s cafe the other day. i'd guess they are exploring an dlooking for a reaction.

whatisthepoint · 09/02/2007 15:27

Yes I think you're right!! Definately doing this for attention but I've tried the 'Thats nice for you' and that didnt work either she just coming out with it more and more!! Most of the time she's not actually doing the things she is telling me that she's done Hopefully this phase will go away soon because it's sooooo bloody annoying !!

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WigWamBam · 09/02/2007 16:10

The "That's nice, dear" has to be consistent, and it may take a while to sink in ... eventually she'll get bored with it. Whatever response you decide needs to be consistent, really, otherwise she'll keep doing it to see what you do next.

You have to give it a bit of time.

Socci · 09/02/2007 16:14

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whatisthepoint · 09/02/2007 16:26

Maybe in hindsight I should have stuck to one response and kept to it, she might have been bored by now. But you know what its like when your desperate to stop bad behaviour, especially when its so embarrassing !!!

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bumblebeee · 09/02/2007 16:39

Agree with WWB. My ds1 is same age and told me yesterday for the first time "I'm going to kill you Mummy"....charming!!

manitz · 09/02/2007 17:42

I agree too. But also it's not desperately bad behaviour its just body parts and farts and stuff. Maybe it might help to give her a book explaining how her body works? If shes getting obsessed by bodily functions then maybe she just wants to know more about it. Being factual also kills this sort of thing off imo.

Skribble · 09/02/2007 17:48

Personaly I would say "Thats not very nice darling" but with similar uninterested, straight face. Otherwise it may be confusing if you say thats nice but I know what you mean.

Its just their age and the discovery of rude words, they are fasinated by the reactions they get, so blank bored face.

Aloha · 09/02/2007 17:52

I've been looking for somewhere to post this! My very lovely but super right-on friends let/ecourage their five year old daughter to call them by their first names and to use the correct terminology for genitalia. Which is fine...but...her dad recently took her away to the seaside by himself so they were staying in a B&B. She gets sand in her knickers and announces, loudly, over breakfast in the dining room, "Paul, my vagina is getting very itchy'!

WigWamBam · 09/02/2007 17:53

No, I don't believe it's confusing. They're not daft; they know it's not nice, that's why they expect to get a reaction.

Even if you say it's nice, they still know it's not ... but if they don't get the reaction they expect, the game has no point.

Definitely a blank, uninterested face though, whatever you decide to say!

WigWamBam · 09/02/2007 17:54

Aloha

bumblebeee · 09/02/2007 18:08

LOL Aloha . Kids can do the most embarassing things can't they! Was talking about this with some friends last year who said their dd actually did a poo under the table in a restaurant whilst they weren't looking obviously, OMG how embarassing

bumblebeee · 09/02/2007 18:10

DS1 tells me how a cow/pig/sheep/whatever danced into his preschool and did a poo on the table. Agree it's just fascination and best way to deal wih it is to be completely plain faced

Bugsy2 · 09/02/2007 18:43

ROFL at Aloha's right on friends & the itchy vagina! Bet that brought a halt to the conversation.
As far as I can tell young children derive extraordinary amounts of pleasure from talking about boogies, poo, wee, farts, bums etc.
I let mine roar with laughter about these things at home, but they are aware that it is not something Granny likes hearing about or should be talked about outside of home.
Best thing is not to make too big a deal about it, because then they know it is an instant attention grabber.

edam · 09/02/2007 18:49

LOL at Aloha's post, that'll teach them.

Ds is 3.5 and the word poo seems to figure fairly prominently in his conversation at the moment. Especially 'poo poo head'. Possibly to do with starting nursery school - think they encourage each other. I either ignore or say 'that's not very nice, dear'. Am hoping this too shall pass...

WideWebWitch · 09/02/2007 18:54

lol Aloha!

Prob against all advice but when ds was 3/4 and came out with this kind of stuff I used to join in and he and his friends loved it. So ds: mum, you're a poo poo head me: no, I think you'll find I'm a wee face actually and so on. It passed, these phases always do. We also used to play a game called Would you like a sandwich where one person said would you like a sandwich and the other said mmm, yes, please, what's on it? And the sandwich offerer would say "cheese" and the recipient would say oh yum and pretend to eat it and so on and so on with normal ingredients until at some point the what's in it? question would be answered with "Poo!" cue much hilarity. Made up by dh in a car with ds while I was in a supermarket shopping once. Ooh those were the days, made our own fun etc etc.

I don't do toilet humour really but I did when my son was 3, he liked it, it passed.

FluffyMummy123 · 09/02/2007 18:56

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Overrun · 09/02/2007 18:58

WWW, I tend to play along as well, I didn't know I was so lavatorial
We all have a giggle, I have three boys, so feel its really a case if you can't beat them join them

FluffyMummy123 · 09/02/2007 18:59

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Overrun · 09/02/2007 18:59

Just can't see what the fuss is about half the time, we are all too worried about bodily functions as adults, and children are fascinated and like to talk about it, why is that so wrong?

Bugsy2 · 09/02/2007 19:04

cod - saying your boys have never talked about poo, is a bit like saying that men don't like hand shandy!!!!!!!!!

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Greensleeves · 09/02/2007 19:08

I love the way cod has these weird neuroses

WideWebWitch · 09/02/2007 19:29

cod you and I always disagree on these threads, you're a prude of an old fish
Good lord, you must be VERY stern and effective.

Overrun · 09/02/2007 19:31

Cod, seriously do you ever worry that your boys might get a bit hung up about bodily functions if you take such a strong line?

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