I'm struggling at the moment with my five, days away from being six, year old.
This is an example of his behaviour that I don't know how to manage. This happened just now. I know it will probably seem like a real non issue but he can do this several times a day over the tiniest of things. And it's exhausting. So -
Nice morning. He has been in a good mood. He tipped a box of an angry birds toy set out onto the lounge floor. I reminded him, you've tipped that out, please make sure you put it away after. All fine.
20 mins later he asks to do some painting. I tell him I will go get the easel and paper ready while he puts his angry birds toy away.
A few minutes later he comes into the kitchen, and I tell him painting his ready, and ask if his toy has been put away. He says yes.
I go back into lounge and it's still on the floor. So I tell him your angry birds toy is still in the floor. You need to tidy it up before painting.
Cue half an hour of crying and shouting and whinging and stomping and refusal to put toy away.
At first he goes on and on about doing it afterwards. I just repeat - no painting until toy is away. Then he goes on and on about just doing a little bit of painting first and then tidying toy away. I say no, tidy first then painting.
He keeps repeating himself and so I say to him I'm not talking about this anymore. You know what you need to do.
When I began to ignore him he then gets louder and louder and crosser and crosser, he yells at me to listen to him then he starts to beg me to help him, then he goes back to just crying and then starts saying I'm going to hit a wall in a minute (?!?!)
So now half an hour later, I lost patience and yelled at him. Said if he didnt pick it up, i would put it in the bin. He then very slowly and begrudgingly picked the toy up. He has bloody forgotten about the painting now. Now he is in a bad mood, whinging about everything. I'm in a bad mood and feeling guilty that I can't stay calm and handle this.
Help. Why does he do this? How do I manage it? Was I too harsh giving him the painting/toy away instruction? Am I being too soft and that's why he behaves like this? He is just relentless sometimes and when he is unhappy about something he is very unreasonable and it affects the whole house.
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Why does my six year old do this?
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FloatyFlo · 11/09/2016 10:27
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