General advice about my 6 year old

[cara0463]

Hello fellow mummy's

Just looking for a little bit of advice. My 6 year old has always been the most beautifully behaved child. We also have a two year old and nothing changed when she was born. He adores her and has never been jealous as far as we know. I've always made an effort to have special mummy and son days to make up for lost time when dealing with baby duties. I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant with our third and my son has been behaving so out of character! Not listening to a word I say, really bad attitude problem, talking to me and his dad terribly and just generally being a little terror! As he's always been so well behaved I'm unsure on how to deal with it!

Please no judging just some advice would be helpful!

Thanks. XXXX

[Lolly12]

Not really helpful, but showing solidarity as going through the same thing here with nearly 6 year old. He's always been well behaved, quiet and no issues with behaviour. But recently he's ignoring everything we say, being very rough and aggressive with his 3 yr old sister, shouting at us and generally being very angry and emotional.

I was wondering if it was a hormone surge, or testing boundaries? I know he needs more one on one attention so going to focus on that.

I'm finding it hard to know how to deal with his behaviour tbh and it's upsetting me that my sweet little boy seems so unsettled.

[cara0463]

Wow Thankyou so much for your reply! It's nice to know somebody's been through the same thing! I've got a reward chart that I'm going to start tomorrow. Hopefully some positive incentives will help. He kisses my belly and talks about his 'new sister' all the time, but maybe it is affecting him a lot more than he's letting on. Working full time and juggling it all is so hard. Fingers crossed he will stop being such a walking little attitude soon enough! Thankyou again xxx

[cara0463]

Lolly my little boy is so rough with his sister too! I don't think he means it but he gets very angrily over exited and pulls her around! He's also started punching and kicking things (not people) when things don't go his way. It's so hard isn't it but I suppose just being persistent and sticking to the same way of dealing with things is key xxxxx

[PacificOcean]

I think when you have a well behaved child it can be a real shock when they go through a naughty phase! Just remember that it's normal behaviour - both for children to go through tricky phases, and for 6 year olds to not listen and be defiant. Just remember the basics - stay calm, be consistent, don't over react on the more minor stuff but be firm if he crosses a line. Remember that a new sibling is a big upheaval for him and it's natural for him to feel jealous and unsettled even if he didn't seem to feel this way last time. Be patient!

[cara0463]

Thankyou all for your advice. It's so appreciated xxxx