They are driving me demented. They are DSs 3 and 6 and DD 8. When they are getting along they are great and in fairness they can be very good to look out for each other and play games together.... but some days it feels like they are constantly fighting, sniping and shouting at each other. The youngest is very strong willed and screams the place down when things aren't going his way. The middle lad can be very emotional and explodes when provoked and the oldest one is getting a smart arsed attitude straight from the Disney channel and is doling out the snarky put downs at the boys. I'm sure this is probably normal enough, but I find it very hard to deal with.
I don't step in immediately when they row. I usually give it a couple of minutes to see if they can sort it out themselves before I talk to them. I've tried to get them to be more patient with each other, not to tease each other, not react to teasing, take deep breaths and calm down when annoyed, treat each other as they would like to be treated etc. I have on occasion lost it and threatened to lock them in a room together till they learn to get along.... There are time outs and consequences for bad behaviour but the next day its the same thing over again.
We have a nanny for the summer and sometimes I think they are worse when she has them. She is ok but I think she isn't firm enough with them. I sometimes work from home and the bitching and squabbling in the background is driving me crazy. (I don't step in when she is with them unless its an emergency).
Anyone else in the same boat or have any advice for me?
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Theythinkimworking · 02/08/2016 16:17
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