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3 year old behaviour - normal or more to it ?

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user1464795209 Tue 26-Jul-16 22:24:15

Ladies ,
My three and half year old is becoming more and more naughty by the day. I actually can't put into words what he's like but I just can't believe this could be 'normal'.. Am I wrong to be wondering if he has something along the lines or 'oppositional defiance disorder ' or something :

- everything is a battle - from the minute he wakes to the minute he goes to bed.
- he picks arguments with everyone and everything simply because he wants to annoy others .
- he will argue with children about absolutely anything : eg: if a child said 'this toy is red'- Ds would say no it's blue and keep going until the child gives in.
- he says no to anything I ask of him.
- screams when he doesn't get his way.
- is rude to adults and just refuses to even talk to anybody and when he does it'll be him saying no.
- he purposefully tries to hurt DD ( baby sister)

I'm so down and upset . It doesn't feel one bit normal and I feel like I'm loosing my grip on being the best parent I can be . I feel like I'm failing and in turn failing him sad

phoolani Tue 26-Jul-16 22:37:58

I've no idea if it's normal, but both mine went through phases that I could have described like that. They seem normal enough if that's any help! Though the 'yes, I did tell you to do that' 'no, you didn't!' arguments are still ongoing 10 years in and still drive me crazy. You need a strategy. Read a couple of parenting books (I like how to talk so kids will listen, but it may be too old for yours yet) and above all keep calm! A Herculean task, but worth it in the end. Ride it out for a bit, see how it goes. But don't despair yet.

CodyKing Tue 26-Jul-16 22:42:41

You don't have to argue with a three year old - get revers physiology - when he say blue you say purple - then just agree with him OK it's green!

When he hurts his sister say nothing just ignore him - kids hate being ignored more than being told of - pick sis up and make a fuss of her -

Mine also has terrible 3's rather than 2's -

We all feel like failures at some point - think of one good moment today and go to sleep on that - even when you tuck him him - tell him you're have a good day and X was fun even if your seething and want him asleep -

Good luck we've all been there

minipie Wed 27-Jul-16 11:12:00

My 3 year old has definitely been through phases when she seems to want to turn everything into a fight. Especially when she's a bit tired.

It's exhausting. But it passes.

If it hasn't passed in another 6 months-1 yr then that's a different issue, but unfortunately I think a short ish phase of this is totally normal for many kids.

MiaowTheCat Thu 28-Jul-16 15:13:23

Terrible twos = overhyped piece of piss

Threes and early fours = fucking awful and no one tells you about those bits! DD1 is getting lovely now she's nearing 4 1/2 but boy oh boy did she reduce me to wine and tears on numerous occasions at 3 and a bit!

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