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2.5 yr old "ner ner na ner ner" ing

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BettyBi0 Tue 26-Jul-16 11:52:49

DD (2.5) has started to be aware of competition, winners, losers, getting certificates and stickers for being the bestest, fastest etc. She mentions it all in a particularly sneery way eg "ner ner na ner ner you don't get a sticker because I'm the winner and you're the loser loser loser" when we were walking to nursery this morning and she decided to "race" me to the next lamppost. It floored me TBH as we've never done sticker charts etc. I know the nursery use stickers and certificates for things but it gets on my nerves as a concept as I'd rather people just did the right thing because it was right and were co-operative and nice with each other. I just told her that what she said was rude and not kind to speak to me like that and that people didn't get rewards for things like that. How do I explain it to her or help her learn to be less obsessed with competition and less mean about it? Is there any point in even trying to fight it?

I know she is just learning it from the older kids in the 2-5 room at her nursery but I want to provide some kind of counter argument at home in a form that makes sense to her.

What kind of language can I use to help a 2.5 year old learn that it's not ok?

TheWhompingWilly Wed 27-Jul-16 11:19:10

I'd play lots of games with her at home and make sure that she doesn't always win. Get her used to the fact that sometimes you win, sometimes you don't. You could try giving a small reward for winning when she's nice about it but don't give a reward if she's gloaty or unpleasant. You need to show her how to win and lose graciously. Lots and lots of praise when she gets it right.

mouldycheesefan Wed 27-Jul-16 11:20:53

My dd was like this, as pp said we had to teach her to both a good winner and a good loser.

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