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Tips on helping 2 year old under SEN start nursery

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PeggyMitchell123 Thu 30-Jun-16 21:28:39

I just today found out my 2 year old son has a nursery place starting in August with the early 2 year funding. He will be going for 2 morning sessions a week. I am very apprehensive and worried.

Initially I was not going to send him to nursery until January 2017 ( the term after his 3rd birthday and the start of 3 year funding that every child gets). I did not think he was eligible for 2 year funding so did not apply. However he is now under both speech and language therapy and SEN for some behaviour issues and inability to socialise. Hence we are eligible and both his health visitor, speech therapist and paediatrician think a nursery setting would be very beneficial and helped secure him a nursery place.

I just worry about his ability to settle into nursery. Because of his issues he does find it very hard around other children and new places. He will also not speak in certain situations so I worry if something was wrong, he would not be able to communicate with staff. The nursery is aware of all issues and seem to be fully understanding which is great. I do know a nursery setting would help him and I am sending him after professionals advised it. It is just very daunting, it has been hard as well admitting there are problems and we are only just coming to terms with him being under SEN.

Has anyone been in this situation? Any tips on helping me and ds prepare for nursery? Can be general nursery tips

BackforGood Thu 30-Jun-16 21:42:35

Aw. It's always hard to watch them grow up and take little steps when you aren't there to (metophorically) catch them.
However, he will be fine at nursery. Staff are trained and experienced and deal wkth non-verbal children every day.
He'll be fine.

MissRosie Thu 30-Jun-16 21:55:23

It may be useful to ask your Speech and Language Therapist to make a Communication Passport for your little one. It would include his personal information such as his name, likes and dislikes and also a section on how he communicates and how best for adults to communicate with him. It's usually kept in the child's bag, tray at nursery etc and new adults should familiarise themselves with it. They are really useful to support children who have additional needs with transition times, and will help the new adults get to know him. Your SLT may also be able to offer a nursery visit to share information with the setting staff.

PeggyMitchell123 Thu 30-Jun-16 22:15:14

MissRosie great advice about the communication passport! It would certainly be useful for staff to really know some things about him. Ds when uncomfortable tends to either lash out in frustration because he cannot communicate or become very withdrawn and will not communicate at all.

The nursery are meeting with me next month to discuss ds and they are communicating with his speech therapist and paediatrician to ensure he gets the full support he needs and if needed a longer adjustment period than usual. I think it is more me that is worried. Due to his speech in particular, I have been speaking for him and making sure he is ok at all times so it is a big thing for us for him to go to nursery.

I know most parents feel like that but I do think I do worry more about him since we realised he was not developing as much as he should be.

BackforGood Thu 30-Jun-16 22:20:11

But before he starts all nurseries would do an 'All about me' document for all children, finding out about likes, dislikes, ways they communicate etc alongside all information gathering about medical needs, etc. Etc

MissRosie Thu 30-Jun-16 22:33:33

Not necessarily, and a Communication Passport written by an SLT is likely to be more comprehensive and communication focussed. I think the OP is understandably concerned, assuming 'he'll be fine' isn't always the most useful attitude to have. Not that I'm saying he won't be, but ensuring all professionals are liaising as appropriate and all support in place before he starts at nursery will help as much as possible.

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