Just looking for some support really.
I have only recently come across the term 'high-needs' and realised it describes my DD perfectly. She is 4months and literally glued to me day and night. She only tolerates her pram and carseat for very short journeys, and even then it has to be when she has just woken up from a nap, fed, no wind etc and is in a reasonably good mood. Any longer than that and she just cries and I end up carrying her and pushing the pram with one hand.
She only naps on me, with white noise, fed to sleep. When she's awake she will sit in her bouncy chair or lie in her play mat for a couple of minutes, then starts shrieking until I lift her. She wants carried around all day long, but not in a cuddly way, she had to be facing outwards to see everything. She likes watching traffic, people, children playing etc and needs a lot of stimulation. I spend hours walking her around our local area, lots of shops, busy roads etc as she gets bored in the house. My arms and back are so sore from all the carrying. If I try to sit down with her on my lap she will start grizzling until I stand up and move again. We co-sleep and I just go to bed when she does every night (around 9pm).
I just don't get a minute to breathe at the minute and am drained physically and mentally. She refuses bottles so no one else can even take her so I can relax for an hour. My DP works long hours but helps when he can.
She is a gorgeous little baby, just easily bored and easily frustrated. She has been rolling for weeks, and is trying to crawl but gets annoyed that she isn't moving anywhere.
I spend all day trying to keep her stimulated and happy.
Anyone else in the same boat?
My DD1 was like this, but not as extreme, so I know it does get better. The days just seem so long at the minute 
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MessyBun247 · 24/05/2016 16:35
I've had same as you, one bad and the second extreme! Totally draining. Hard to enjoy anything. It gets better in increments as you know. Both times the arrival of solids was a relief, they can be distracted by food that's not coming out of you... And building a relationship with their dad so that he becomes v important to them too. And their sibling! But there's not really any rushing it. Just hang in there as much as you can. My second is 18 months now and a lot lot easier. Still a bit high maintenance but really enjoyable.
Just remember you're not alone and you're doing all you can 
Yes my first was like this. Then she started walking around her 1st birthday and it was like a personality transplant. I think she just hated being a baby! It's so so tough but you will get through it somehow 
I feel your pain.
DS is four months and also high needs / demanding. Hates the buggy. Hates the car seat. Needs to be vigorously rocked to sleep. My back and shoulders are fucked as he's massive.
I can only hope he grows out of it. My one saving grace is that he now lets me put him down for a little while - on his playgym or bouncy chair.
Hugs and 
for you, OP.
Thank you all so much for the replies, was feeling really low today, so great to know it's not just me!
My DD1 was a bit easier by around 6 months, and brilliant by around a year, she just hated being a baby. Ended up the most easy going, funny, happy toddler and child. Am really hope DD2 will be the same!!
furrywalls arghh it's so hard isn't it! I'm sure we will look back at this one day and laugh. But for now, let's just eat cake and try and enjoy the fleeting good moments! They don't stay this way forever, that is my mantra 
O that looks really good! Think I may have to invest in one. Thank you 
I am sure that I am battling with one of these! My first so nothing to compare her to and no bloody clue what I am doing but she is an absolute nutter .
Our days seem so intense, she also seems to love taking it all in. But like parrot said, it is such a fine balance as she will observe intently and then just explode when she is overstimulated. I honestly didn't even think overstimulation was a thing before DD. People think I am being precious when I try to get her to nap or take her away from a busy situation where she is seemingly having fun. If I let her carry on she eventually just goes bang and we have full on hysterical melt down. Does your DD do this? It's like pouring shit loads of sherbet into a fizzy drink not sure if that even erupts but you get my drift she takes it all in then goes nuts, so I have try and step in first! I am still learning to spot when she's had enough.
When just us at home her attention span is so friggin short, we rotate "entertainment options" when I've got the energy. Sometimes she will play for a few mins in her activity thing or with a toy, sometimes I have to resort to waking up the cat for her to watch terrorise.
Not much help I'm afraid, just some understanding although I don't have another child to be trying share my time with. Same here with the bottle refusing/dummy refusing, same here with the DP who works lots, same with DD getting easily bored/frustrated and make sure the whole world knows it, also a co-sleeper DD often actually opting for no-sleeper-rather-stay-awake-and-cause-mayhem option. You getting much sleep?
Sorry, can you tell motherhood has come as a bit of a shock to me. 
all round (thimble sized breast-feeders portions 
Thanks for the replies.
Apart from growth spurts and developmental spurts her sleeping hasn't ever been toooo bad . She wakes to feed and goes back to sleep thank god. Some nights 3 times, some nights 10 times, anything goes really. And she naps ok during the day BUT this involves me walking up and down my kitchen feeding her to sleep, with the extractor fan on, then me sitting holding her in the kitchen for the duration of the nap. So I don't really get out much because she really needs her naps or she gets very overtired. If I try to put her down she's awake within a couple of mins. If she's very tired she will fall asleep in the buggy when I'm out, but only for a short time, and I can't stop walking or she wakes straight away! That's if she even goes into her buggy in the first place 
she arches her back sometimes when I try to put her in, like a toddler having a tantrum!
And yy to rotating entertainment options! That made me laugh! It's a non-stop rotation when she is awake! And I spend a lot of time standing by the very busy main road where we live, holding her while she watches the traffic. She loves it! And yy to terrorising the pet for entertainment, she loves watching the dog!
Yes I think the word 'intense' is very very appropriate for how life is right now. I always thought the first few months were the hardest, but I'm actually finding this stage really difficult. I know once she can move around she'll be much happier, her Dsis was exactly the same, quite a frustrated wee baby but brilliant once she became mobile.
We were out walking with my DP last night (with babe in arms!) and I saw a couple walking out of a takeaway and casually getting into their car, I was picturing them going home and lounging around watching a DVD and going to bed whenever they felt like it, maybe a cheeky lie-in in the morning. And I felt so JEALOUS!! Life will be normal again one day!
I would love to meet for a coffee and chat, with other high needs baby mums-:) Kids allowed
Where are you, delice? I could imagine an MN High Needs Baby meet...they'd just be screaming down Costa whilst we cried into our lattes.
That's sounds like a good plan
I'm very close to CJ, what about you?
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