In general I think DD is a well behaved child but she does some weird things:
- she is too friendly with strangers, ever since she could walk she had been going up to other children and adults trying to play and talk with them. For example, we went to soft play and her nose wad running so u got a tissue out to clean her, she took the tissue off me and said 'grandma' (a little boys grandma) would clean her nose and em then asked rheumatoid lady to do so. If we're in a park she will ask someone else's mum to help her climb, watch her on the slide, do with her whatever the mum is doing with her own child (their shoe laces, put haircut back in, do coat up) while I'm right next to her. She will tell me to do something else. It's embarrassing. Went to the forest last week and she 'joined' another family who where walking past us. If another family is having a picnic she will sit next to them and ask them for her food.
She is very bad at obeying. Lately she only way I can get her to do anything is to shout or thread or punish. I hate it. Other times she listens straight away. I'm wondering whether it is more that she can't focus though rather than deliberately disobeying. She doesn't seem to take it in. Getting dressed in the morning. I give her clear instructions. Please take off your socks. It can take her 15 minutes.
She chews on everything. Pens, books, stones, remote controls, toys, cloths, anything hard. She eats paper, tissues, lipsticks, moisturising cream, candle wax, crayons, pens, sand. She has got all her teeth.
She has real tandrums when we are leaving a place, park, soft play, zoo, friends house. She doesn't want to go home, runs off, goes all floppy so it's impossible for me to pick her up. It spoils the whole thing, no matter how well behaved she has been. So now I'm dreading taking her anywhere. I've got a 3 months old baby has well.
She runs off on her own. It is so dangerous, I've lost her twice at the zoo. I've now bought some wristbands with my phone number on for her. She does not listen if I ask her to come back. She does not seem to understand that it is not alright for her to run off. When I spoke to her about it her reply was: 'Don't worry mummy, the lady will take me back to you.' She doesn't cry when she's lost, she'll be busy talking to people.
She has a phobia of having her hair washed. She won't let me do it whichever way I've tried. She will climb out of the bath. She has afro hair so I can manage it by using a spray bottle with water. She hates having her ears and eyes getting wet so I guess it might just be that.
Lately, she is doing this extensive role play where I have to be the Beast and she is Belle and she will do role play but then she will say things like 'Mummy, do you want to say, what gave you got in your hand Belle?' or 'What are you eating Belle? ' As if she is telling me what to say.
She will ask what objects are saying. E.g. I'm putting on her socks and she will ask 'What is the sock saying?' I'll answer, then she'll say 'And what is my foot saying?' Same with going to the toilet, not every time but a lot. 'What is the toilet saying? What is the water saying? What is my poo poo saying? What is the toilet paper saying?' It's exhausting. But she only foes it sometimes. It might be a game to her, I don't know.
She has a very limited diet. She will not try any new foods, doesn't eat any vegetables.
She seems to be unable to be gentle with her baby sister. I don't think she wantsto hurt her, she is just to impulsive and over excited but she's constantly poking her face etc.
BUT she is a lovely girl, people always comment how well she speaks and how well behaved she is. We usually have a great time together, she loves 'helping' with housework, baking, cooking, playing in the garden. She likes to cuddle and she's still breastfeeding, we co-sleep. She is really sweet and thoughtful and can reason well, I just wish she wouldn't do the above things. Can anyone tell me that this is normal and will pass?