I just really messed up in a stand off with my 3 year old. Don't know what now.
DD often has to be dragged out, she prefers playing indoors but I find a whole afternoon inside exhausting. She has nursery in the morning and a fairly long scoot there and back so does get outside each day but I find afternoons cooped up stressful and hard work.
We were due to go for a play date at the park with DDs best friend. I let DD have iPad after lunch while I fed the baby but I said after this Ben and holly it's time to go. Anyway, after the Ben and holly she refused to switch off. I had to take the iPad from her and she had a total tantrum. Screaming and refusing to get ready to go. I tried explaining her friend was waiting, her friend would be sad etc but DD just didn't want to go out. I tried to manhandle but that wasn't going to end well. I also had the 4 month old screaming at this point as she was ready for a nap.
In the end DD started saying she was ill. I had that moment of doubt 'what if she doesn't feel well?' So said fine, go have a nap. I cancelled the play date, which I feel awful about. The friend will be disappointed and her nanny pretty within her rights to be pissed off. 5 minutes later she wants to get up.
I have told her how cross I am and that she has been very naughty, she had 7 minutes on the naughty step.
She is banned from iPad today as that was a threat used mid tantrum.
What now? Do I just let it go and get on with an afternoon playing in? I don't know if that will let her think she 'won'. But if I stay cross and refuse to play with her all afternoon isn't that just mean? She's nearly 4 but I can't punish her all pm can I?
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parenting failure. what do I do now?
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ThinkAboutItTomorrow · 15/03/2016 15:22
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