I like to think we are gentle parents, always done things in an attached parent kind of way. I don't like labels but in simple form this is how we've tried to raise our littles so far. (5,3.5,2) and 34 weeks pregnant.
The thing I'm finding hard is that as much as I can try to be fun, and talk things through, patient. I find dp and I end up using bribes or eventually shouting as they just don't seem to take us seriously if we are saying they have upset us, or unacceptable behaviour.
We try to validate their emotions as ours (5 & 3.5yo)
But we get the: "you're just rubbish", they shout, scream when feeling powerless, if we try to say it's not acceptable they will just refuse to listen.
When dds are playing, and they'll dispute. We try to say we'll wait until they are finished, play together or find something else but I get told I'm a bully, or in fair, or I'm boring.
If we say it's bed time, they will refuse to go without us going up.
Miss five will refuse to go upstairs on her own. She feels the need to have someone with her each time.
I want them to respect us without us shouting. Having to ask them numerous times etc.
Tidying up and playing is another story. They will not tidy up unless nagged to do so (after being and trying to make it fun but orderly) they will leave toys out and start another again, they have a playroom but refuse to play in it. They follow me, or just make mess everywhere or ask for things constantly.
We have a good few months but all of a sudden it's gone a bit mad again!
I'm reading some books at the minut (playful parenting) and toddler calm.
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littleraysofsunshine · 23/02/2016 17:47
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