He's always been a daydreamer, had problems concentrating on anything that doesn't interest him (ie schoolwork, getting dressed in the morning etc) and I've been in school a dozen times because of it. He's not disruptive, he just wanders off mentally and doesn't get on with anything.
Considering all that, his grades are middling to quite good, so dh and I have been reluctant to push it any further.
I've talked to both our paediatrician and a therapist about him, but though we suspect he's probably got ADS, there isn't really much on offer that I haven't already tried.
Anyway, the main issue really is homework.
We are in Germany, where the homework is an integral part of the schoolwork, it's non-negotiable. Ds is in the 3rd year of Grundschule (almost 9yo) and is expected to have 1 - 1.5 hours of homework a day.
The quantity is not the problem. It's his attitude towards it, which i know has come about due to the constant nagging and criticism etc (from both school and me). He hates it, he thinks it's too much, he thinks he can't do it, it's a constant non-stop battle. He will argue every single point he can, his work is almost unreadable at times it's so messy (though the writing etc he does for himself ie not for school is very good indeed).
We are arguing almost every single day, it's taking forever to get anything done. He is so unbelievably rude to me, so aggressive and horrible, I sometimes don't recognise him at all.
And then, when it's over, he basically goes back to being himself again while I am deeply upset and can't quite forget it.
It's damaging our relationship and I really don't know what to do about it.
I need strategies that change his (and my) attitude, we've somehow got into this awful pattern of it being dreadful and so it is dreadful iyswim.
Sorry this has been so long. I'm so down and sad and frustrated I really don't know what to do.
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I am finding it so very hard with ds1 and I need some help
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TheKitchenWitch · 18/02/2016 15:26
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