I am having a lot of smallish issues with my 10 year old son, almost 11, and the result is all these small things together is causing a big problem. Even impacting on safety of 17 month toddler.
He is unable to follow simple instructions, the same instructions he's had for years like how to get ready for school ect; he has a terrible memory for example, he will go upstairs to brush his teeth (after getting reminded) and then forget why he's upstairs and come back down with a hat or something, or just potter about in his room. Sounds minor but these are daily occurances and have been for years. It is extremely draining and frustrating.
The safety thing is he is leaving phone chargers, Xbox head phone cables, Lego men, buttons?! And pens pencils ect just lying around in easy reach for toddler (they share a room) he's been told he has to move this stuff out of reach as the cables you straight round toddlers neck and everything else into his mouth. We have repeatedly explained the seriousness of this, told him that his brother could choke or suffocate but he still "forgets" to move the stuff.
He is also extremely manipulative and can be a nightmare to be around if he doesn't get his own way. Deliberately changing food preferences just to be twisted if he doesn't want what's for dinner. He takes mammoth style meltdowns, loud attention seeking crying if he can't go to one of his activities, which rarely happens but sometimes things come up!
Every time we speak to him about any of these issues he just stares right through us, no remorse for potentially killing his brother or causing upset in the house and no empathy when we try to explain how we feel. It's like talking to a brick wall, there's just no emotion and I can see that he's not taking anything in. I'm completely stumped as what to do now, it's really getting me down.
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10 yr old ds lack of empathy/remorse and more
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teaandporridge · 09/02/2016 07:06
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