It's driving me nuts. Making me lose my temper. We're going through potty training (two weeks, very slow going) so my nerves are already a bit jangled. My problem is that she won't listen to me or do anything I say without a fight about it. For instance after doing her wee on the potty and me being excited and happy about it for her sake, she tried to pick up the potty to empty it. Past experience has taught me she throws it all over the place in the bathroom so I asked her to leave it. She ignored me so I stopped her hands and asked her again to leave it. She went for it again so the third time I said 'LEAVE IT' and unbelievably she tried to pick it up AGAIN. This is just an example of many similar situations, but this is the latest one that actually made me completely lose it. I screamed 'JUST LEAVE IT ALONE!' and took her wrist and led her to the sofa out of the way (jerk, no, pull, yes) where she pulled that unhappy fish face and said sorry.
I used to think it was because of distractions like the TV being on so she wasn't paying attention, but this one was clearly not about that. It's as though she can't understand what I'm saying, or can't link what I'm saying to what she is doing.
She doesn't have any other obvious developmental problems (she's behind with everything by about 6 months, but the progress is at a seemingly normal rate)
Before I ask or tell her anything I ask her to look at me. That's another one I'm having problems with. I have to say it several times while she's playing with some toy or other. When I get her to look at me I say something then I ask her to repeat it back to me. She can't say a word of it. For instance, I say 'when you need a wee, tell mummy'. Then I say 'what do you do when you need a wee?' and she can't tell me...
How can I effectively get her attention, make her listen and understand what I want from her? I'm getting so frustrated that I don't want to even bother asking/telling her things any more, I just want to pick her up and plop her down somewhere because it's so much easier in the short term...
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Nearly 4 year old girl won't listen to/look at me
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Boomerwang · 06/02/2016 17:35
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