Hi All, just after some advice, and to have a bit of a rant...My 8 month old has got really whingy and moody. She also seems to be way behind her peers development wise, I spoke to HV and they said not to worry yet but I can't help it. She sits up but that's about it, she doesn't roll over, she doesn't crawl, she doesn't really stand ( will occasionally but not for long and not very well) she pushes up in her arms when on belly but mostly just does swimming motion. She babbles a lot but doesn't say any words yet. We go to a baby class every week and recently she just cries through the entire thing. I'm worried I'm stopping her developing somehow, like I'm overprotective as ftm. I've always given her lots of tummy time but she's is hating it more and more. She just wants to be picked up and carried all the time, I try not to too much but sometimes when she is bawling huge tears I don't know what else to do. Any advice on how to help her develop, where I might be going wrong, how to stop the whinging would be good. She does have a lovely happy side and gives me lots of smiles and giggles but when with other people (or sometimes for seemingly no reason) she is really grumpy. A lot of my postnatal friends call her the grumpy one which is a by upsetting as she can be so lovely and happy. Sorry or the rant just feeling a bit upset about it, just want her to be happy. Thanks
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DD2 is just 9 months old and is only sitting. She has rolled once each direction to prove she can and now doesn't bother. She's certainly not talking. I'd be fooling myself if I said her babbles of 'mumumumum' and 'dadadad' were remotely associated with the relevant parent 
DD1 didn't crawl til 10 months and hardly babbled - she just came out with words one day.
Your DD sounds just fine. Separation anxiety starts to show up about now which might account for some of the tears. You can help her get used to you leaving and returning by moving out of sight for a short time but still talking to her, making noise etc then make a big fuss about returning.
DD2 needs frequent changes of environment and stimulation. We get out of the house a lot because it's all just fascinating for her, whatever we do, even a walk to the corner shop or to the horrible park down the road.
If she wants to be held and carried, do it. It will only make your bond stronger. Have you got a sling? DD2 often goes in ours late afternoon when she gets a bit grizzly
Not sure if this will help but it honestly does make a difference that she is your first.
Not because of anything that you are or aren't doing but because in a few years time you will have the benefit of hindsight to say ah she was slower at this but could do cartwheels at playtime when all the other children were still dribbling in the corner.
It is so scarey being the main carer for a baby it all seems so loose and unknown. But the honest reality is that the vast majority of children fit into the boundaries of normal development.
Be kind to yourself, cuddle her when she wants, and Teflon coat yourself against other people's opinions. For some reason it seems to be acceptable to make comments about other children.
As a parting comment. My target for the boys walking was the latest person I knew which was 20 months so was delighted when ds2 did it at 14 months. 
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Oh good at least you have things to try.
I used to leave an old mobile a little distance away from my dd and that was a good crawling motivator. She is still obsessed with my phone .
I hate competitive parenting, it's so unnecessary and a bit pathetic.
Give your baby a big cuddle and smile and nod with the racing mums.
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