Talk

My 7 yo DD is being very difficult at the moment. It's been a long week of what can be summed up in a nutshell as "I won't do what you tell me to do".

Today she flat out refused to do her required homework reading. She made up a whole set of reasons why she wouldn't do that, and flat out lied about having other homework to do.

This ended up being a screaming session (she has this really loud high pitched wail it's difficult to describe exactly) where she threw herself around the room and screamed and wailed. When DP took her to her room to calm down she screamed that he was hurting her. Throughout this we both showed a lot of control and kept trying to reason with her. (Obviously no one was hurting her!)

Anyway it's all really draining and upsetting and i wonder if people have any advice about what to do with a child who just doesn't seem to understand why she should do what we ask her to ?

We use consequences and rewards system but when we stick to our guns and insist she has to do as shes told to do it always turns into this kind of a drama and I wonder if anyone has any good advice?