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Five year old son. Always in the peripheral

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Shawaddywaddy1969 Sat 23-Jan-16 22:52:17

Hi all,
My son is a lovely boy, very bright,imaginative, kind natured and confident. He has his demanding moments at home but those are rare and usually attributed to tiredness or illness. He started reception in September and is on track academically. Prior to starting school he was always ahead of milestones,very early to talk,very explorative and very sociable. Obviously we're very proud parents. smile Since he has started school we've noticed that he is always on the peripheral of social groups/he never really becomes part of a solid group of friends. Already the other kids seem so much more 'streetwise'. He's starting to lose confidence in himself and we are perhaps stupidly worrying about whether he is what we once referred to as a sociable geek..or is this now indicative of something much more. Asperger's perhaps but he doesn't present so obviously as the usual Aspie kids..
He's also been on the receiving end of what we can only describe as bullying behaviour by another child in his class.. (Which we are dealing with positively with class teacher)
I worry maybe we are overthinking this and perhaps he needs some more play dates with other kids, to widen his social circle and his confidence.
Advice and handholding please blush

StuffEverywhere Sat 23-Jan-16 23:44:10

Did he go to nursery?

StuffEverywhere Sat 23-Jan-16 23:45:01

Is he unhappy about going to school?

rhetorician Sun 24-Jan-16 13:33:11

he's very young, and not all children are at the centre of social groups - I have a dd (now 7) who is like this, and seriously, I think it bothers me far more than it does her. She has a couple of friends, and gets on well with others in the class when doing activities etc, but isn't in one of the strong groups. The bullying issue needs to be tackle and it is most likely this that is affecting his social confidence and you need to be careful to ensure that he realises that he is not responsible for the bullying and that he is not defined by it. Some playdates might be the way to go - we didn't primarily because we both work.

What does he say about it? Who does he want to be friends with? Even the "street-wise" kids have very poor social skills and need a lot of support negotiating friendships

Lucsy Sun 24-Jan-16 13:46:25

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SavoyCabbage Sun 24-Jan-16 14:04:06

My oldest is a 'follower' in her friendships. It took me a while to realise that she wasn't being walked all over, just that she isn't very dominant d she doesn't want to be. My youngest is the opposite. Whatever she is into that week, that's what her friends are playing. Having the two of them helped me to understand it I think.

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