He used to do this when he was about 4/5/6 and i could handle it. He hasnt done it in years but he is ten now, almost as tall as me and does martial arts. He knows he can easily hurt me. It was almost definitely a push back reaction to me becoming firmer and not negotiating on consequences like i usually give in. He wanted to go to friend's house which is no issue but he was pestering younger DS (6) for the Playstation game he was playing as he said friend doesnt have it and wants to play it. DS2 said no, he was still playing it. They argued. DS1 asked for me to tell Ds2 to let him have the game. I said no, that it isnt friend's game and that Ds2 is playing with it (if Ds2 hadnt been it would have been no problem to take it) DS1 started crying and whingeing which i ignored and then he got angry speaking sharply to DS2 i told him if he continued that attitude he wouldnt be gojng to friend's at all. He continued. I said he wasnt going. He threw his watch at me then walked out of the room. Then came straight back in and kicked me in the knee and was throwing punches at my head. I managed to hold him so he couldnt hit but he was kicking so i pushed us both on the sofa so i could lean on his legs. I yelled for him to stop. I was in tears and he said "or what?" And i said "you go to your room. You are grounded" and i got off him. He went to leave then tried to come back through the door again to hit me but i closed the door and held it. I dont know if he is on the stairs or went up to his room. My leg and foot is killing me.
What do i do? I'm not having this shit. No fucking way. I feel like caling his dad to come and take him but i know thats not dealing with it and i dont want to create an option where if he's pissed with me he can kick off and get to go there (where there isnt any discipline)
He has just come in and said sorry. I burst into tears and said i am not ready to speak to him yet and asked him to go to his room which he has done.
So what are his consequences? All i can think of is grounding him? For how long? Playstation ban? I want him to be so unhappy with the consequences that he never dares lift a hand to anyone again. How do i make this message stick?
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Son (10) just attacked me. How do i deal with it?
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RudeElf · 12/01/2016 16:01
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