Our 4.5 yr old wakes at night scared. This has been going on for about 8 months to some degree but got really bad a few months ago, was OK over Christmas but got bad again in the last few days. Sometimes she can't go back to sleep because she is scared for hours. I can manage when once a night but when 3 or 4 times it's obviously too much. She is a bright and imaginative but slightly anxious child (won't watch Disney films "in case there's something scary") but no health problems or anything to cause anxiety at home or school. The issue got particularly bad when they had a "dragon" visit the playground at school (teachers pretended a friendly dragon came an laid an egg)- she was really excited about it during the day but terrified at night, despite reassurances that it was good and couldn't come to her house anyway and eventually I just told her the truth (made up by teachers) but she didn't believe me!
We have tried everything we can think of - light outside room left on, lying in her bed till she goes to sleep (bad as she wakes and we're gone and it doesn't solve anything), reward charts, chocolate button in morning if slept through, reassurance from next room, going in, sitting on her bed, standing by her bed and reassuring and then leaving (= screaming which can't have as her bed is on the neighbours side). I have tried to understand what is scaring her - sometimes it is "monsters", sometimes hippos or foxes but I get the impression it is more a general fear. No reassurance will help. Suggested a monster spray or a toy to protect her but she says no.
She's not too bad going to sleep - the checking on her in 5 mins tactic sorted that out when that was an issue so I'm wondering if anyone has any tactics that worked for them?
Ideas please anyone?
Thanks in advance.
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4.5 yr old wakes scared at night - ideas of tactics?
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CPBsMum · 06/01/2016 23:24
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