My 8 year old protests "no" to everything asked of him, from putting on an extra layer to brushing his teeth, washing his hands before a meal, or having a shower. He is given a forewarning before asked to do task eg "in 5 mins its time to wash hands" etc.... But im met with no straight away. I usually leave it at that and when the time has gone i remind him and i either get another no, which at times can be feeble, or big protests usually resulting in the naughty step because he hasn't done what was asked. He is also being increasingly horrid to his other younger brother, whom he resents a bit for being cheerful (my 8 year old is really a 40 year old cynic) and finds him "disgusting" in manner, eg hates my 6 year olds eating habits.... This resentment is building up quite a bit.
My 5 year old, and youngest, seems to have massive anger issues right now. I was thinking its jus a testosterone phase? He is mostly compliant but when he isn't it is hellish!! Resorts immediately to yelling and stamping his foot, despite reprimand or withdrawal of privilege.
They both get what i see as a reasonable amount of reward for good behaviour, and they are the two of my kids who have no SEN needs, i know in part they probably feel a little aside from their brothers who need different things.
I try to talk openly in the family always, am not quick to judge, so i dont understand why their tempers are so quick.
Does anyone have any advice? My 8 "year old concerns me the most, as he is becoming quite verbally aggressive at times, and some physical aggression is starting to come out. Wwyd at refusal to do as asked?
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Struggling a bit with my 8 year old and 5 year old
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Dorsetmama · 04/01/2016 20:29
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