Struggling to leave house for long(4 Posts)
Hi All, I'm going through a bit of a difficult time at the moment....little one isn't sleeping very well day or night , or at least not consistently...and to try and sort it out I've been trying to spend a lot of time at home so I can stick to timings a lot better to be consistent for her...following a really bad wkend I now feel like I need to try and get out a bit...I feel like I'm avoiding socialising with friends as its too difficult with little one. There are a few issues...I am breastfeeding but really struggle to do it in public, I have quite big boobs and so have to hold boob and my daughter (she's 6 months btw!) and she hates going under the feeding cover but can't do it discretely without. Whenever I do go out I always try and feed her before I leave and be back for next feed or feed her in the car when I get somewhere. I feed her every 3 hours though so it doesn't leave much time (also cluster from 4pm-6.30pm). She also doesn't sleep very well apart from in her cot (even then not great) and so she gets so tired and grumpy that the day isn't much fun for her. Bad feeds and bad day sleep then usually means a really bad nights sleep for her (& me!). We have recently started weaning so to add to that I'm fitting in 2 food meals a day at the moment. I have tried expressing and giving her a bottle but recently she hasn't been taking it (or not taking enough when she does) will only take from hubby too not me. I just feel like I'm not getting on with life, my whole life revolves around her naps or feeds. I know that's to be expected to a degree but my mum in particular has commented that I focus too much on it and need to just get on with my life and fit her around me...I don't know what to do and it's really getting me down.
it sounds miserable OP....it won't be a popular piece of advice on here I think but would you consider stopping breast feeding at this point? If you want to then you should. She's 6 months and you've obviously done a fantastic job and now maybe you need a break?
Yeah I would definitely consider it but at the moment I can't get her to take a bottle of expressed milk so I'm guessing she'd be the same with formula? I love breastfeeding her when we are at home but as I said out and about it is hard so either mix feeding her or expressing would be great...if only I could get her to take a bottle...and she would need to take it from me as well as him. He's got a few weeks off soon so we were going to try and work on getting her to take it (from
Him at first and then hopefully me too!). I just feel so pathetic that I struggle to leave the house for more than a few hours with her...and even going to a friends house...whilst the breastfeeding is fine then l, getting my Lo to take a nap is hard without either putting her in her cot or having her in a moving buggy but can't always bring buggy into someone's house?! A friend of mine when at our house can just rock her baby to sleep and lie her on the sofa or floor and she'll sleep or even in car seat...my little one just wouldn't do that!
Is there a La Leche league in your area?
www.laleche.org.uk/ I bet they'll be able to advise
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