Nearly 3 year old DD regressing

[winemummy1]

My DD started Playschool in September at 2 & 8 months, she had until then been v confident, outgoing, fully potty trainrd (not at night) she goes 2 mornings a week & loves it & playschool have flagged no issues.
However now she has suddenly become crippling shy at her music class, she always too part was very extrovert, always joined in now she just wants to sit on my lap & not participate. It's so frustrating, I tend not to push it....
Also she is pottu trained & loved going now holds onto wees & poos as long as she can
She is also pretending to be a baby, she never had a dummy & now sticks things in her mouth pretending it's a dummy saying I'm a baby
I'm not handling this very well. I'm getting frustrated with herm her. Is this a normal stage, could it be linked to preschool, she's one of the youngest in her class...

[Ferguson]

She probably senses your frustrations, and doesn't feel inclined to 'play ball'!
I'll come back when have more time, with more information.

[winemummy1]

Would really appreciate that, so upset all day, I don't know where my happy go lucky, funny little girl is gone:(

[ImperialBlether]

Are you at home when she's at playschool? If so, I would just pull her out of playschool and let her stay at home for a few more months. It doesn't sound as though she's ready for it just yet. If you can, just keep her home with you - she'll soon be ready for mixing with other children without you.

[winemummy1]

Yes Imperial, I'm at home & I have a 16 month old as well, no family support & dh works crazy hours so those 2 mornings a week are really like goldust to me-feel awful as admitting it but I struggle to cope at times & enjoy those 3 mornings with dc2. The thought definitely crossed my mind, she's very articulate for her age but I feel it might have dented her confidence a bit being in with the older kids too...
She just seems to have lost all her energy & I am getting frustrated & cross about her lack of cooperation, I feel awful & wish I handle things better..
Her younger sister is now starting to talk very well & I wonder is she finding that threatening too...

[ImperialBlether]

Pretty soon those two are going to be chattering away together; your elder daughter certainly won't resent her little sister for talking! Maybe pull her out for a month now and start her again after Christmas? I know what you mean about enjoying time with just one! Look at her, though - she's lost her energy, she's not as co-operative, she doesn't seem as happy. I don't think you have much choice, really, I'm afraid. Nobody tells you how tough it's going to be, do they?!

[winemummy1]

Thanks Imperial, I don't know if it's related but for the past month she has refused point blank to nap, I can tell she's very tired but she won't go down for me... Might be another element to it...

[Ferguson]

As children get older, and gradually mature, things that they were previously unaware of, or did not worry about, can take on more significance. Also, as babies and even toddlers, they just accept most of what adults present to them. When older, they may realise perhaps they could have more choice and control in running their life.

What is the music class she does? Is that putting too much pressure on her?