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Tearing my hair out

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99percentchocolate · 02/12/2015 13:43

Dd has been very difficult this weekend - awful screaming tantrums over nothing at all, kicking, hitting... But she has had a fever on/off so put it down to that.
The last couple of days she has started refusing to eat. At all. Took her to the GP who said that her throat was a little red but that as long as she was having lots of liquids it was fine.
We've been giving her whatever she wants to eat but she is taking a few mouthfuls at most. I've even offered chocolate if she eats half a sandwich, but no luck.
She's taken to screaming if you remind her to eat and today she kicked me in the stomach (I'm pregnant) and then screamed blue murder for 15 minutes. I cried.
I'm at a total loss with what to do with her. She has always been a bad eater but she has really stepped it up a notch by being violent. When you ask her why she won't eat she says she just wants to play instead.
She's also been wetting herself recently and lashing out at us a lot.
We've tried giving her extra time and cuddles with us, planning special treats, giving her a break from us too in case we are the problem. She's like it with everyone.
I'm having a really difficult pregnancy too with multiple hospital admissions. Could it be lashing out because of the baby?
What can we do? I'm desperate. I hate seeing her upset.

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thinkfast · 02/12/2015 13:46

Sounds to me like she's got a mild virus and has lost her appetite (we be all had similar of the last couple of weeks)

I would offer plainest food over the next couple of days. Offer lots of drinks and rest and hopefully she'll be herself again soon

However kicking would mean naughty step in this house, regardless of being a bit of colour

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bonzo77 · 02/12/2015 14:06

Wetting herself + loss of appetite + behavioural changes might = urinary tract infection. Get her urine dipped at the GP.

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99percentchocolate · 02/12/2015 14:22

Dr thinks weekend behaviour was because of virus, so have written that off. I thought UTI too but dip came back fine. Will try again if not improved in a few days time.
Kicking was immediately removal to bedroom (safest place on the house when she is lashing out)

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99percentchocolate · 02/12/2015 14:23

I just feel like a terrible parent, and worry that she is desperately unhappy.

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thinkfast · 02/12/2015 20:08

How long has the behaviour been going on for?

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99percentchocolate · 03/12/2015 13:17

The lashing out has only been the last few days, the wetting started a couple of months ago but we've had no accidents at all for the last couple of days.
Have spoken to a couple of parents at nursery today and it looks like it could be part of this virus that is going around. All are reporting their children suddenly misbehaving and refusing to eat, so that's a relief I suppose.
Managed to convince her to eat some ice cream last night and coco pops this morning, so even though it's junk at least it's something.

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TheVeryHungryPreggo · 03/12/2015 14:18

Probably partly that bug going round and partly pushing back at you for being pregnant. DS went through the most horrific behaviour during my last month of pregnancy when he was 2.8 and it lasted for about three weeks. Appalling tantrums and yes, violence like we'd never seen before. After a couple of weeks we were starting to worry it was our doing and we'd somehow become the world's worst parents, but thankfully it was Just A Phase...

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99percentchocolate · 03/12/2015 18:24

I'm wondering that preggo - I think she could be pushing back so trying to do lots of reassuring about the baby and how it won't change how we feel about her. Fingers crossed this is just a phase she grows out of soon!