5yo ds is a sweet and affectionate little boy, but he is driving me and dh round the bend at the moment with a relentless demand to play with him. I feel like we play with him as much as we can. We used to both work full time, getting home at 7pm and while one was preparing the dinner, we'd make sure the other would be giving him full attention. Likewise, after dinner, one of us plays while the other clears up. Weekends we spend all together, most of the time playing.
I'm not working at the moment so I pick him up after school and am with him playing until dh gets home and I thought this might make things better, but it hasn't. Sometimes, we'll be doing painting or lego and if I say 'now I have to go and make lunch' or whatever, he'll cry out 'but we haven't played yet!' - for him, playing is either pretend play which I'll admit I can't stand but will force myself to do, or running around/playfighting/chasing. Every evening when it's dinner time, he'll collapse into tearful laments that he hasn't had time to play with daddy.
He has a 7yo sister, who also nags us to play a lot, although being older she will now read on her own or get absorbed by some craft activity sometimes. I wish they'd play together but they're not really on the same wavelength and argue a lot (dd doesn't really have the patience for ds).
I can't decide whether we've played with them too much or not enough! Sometimes I think they just can't deal with the feeling of boredom. But we have systematically tried to encourage them to occupy themselves (setting a timer for our "adult time", getting them started on activities, then leaving them to continue, etc.) and it just hasn't worked. Then again maybe the constant nagging at us to play is just them wanting to spend more time with their busy, working parents (I have working mother's guilt in spades). We had a long weekend in the country planned and the thing that ds was most excited about for weeks in advance was that I'd promised to play catch with him when we were there!
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5yo ds cries every evening because we haven't played with him (we have)
midwinterjicker · 09/11/2015 08:45
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