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4 year old running off

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startwig1982 Sun 09-Aug-15 22:32:17

I decided to take action today as ds almost ran into the road yesterday. So today I told him that if he ran off I would put reins on him (despite hating them). About 1 hour into a visit to a park/zoo he ran off. So I caught him and put the reins on. We timed 10 minutes and then took them off again.
He hated it so did I but it seemed to do the trick as he stayed with me and DH the whole time afterwards.
Does this sound ok? I really don't want to resort to reins but I'm worried about his safety and my peace of mind.

Sleepybunny Sun 09-Aug-15 22:37:28

Sounds sensible to me! The behaviour is dangerous, and you are making him aware there are consequences to actions.

MrsOs Thu 13-Aug-15 12:57:29

Agree, you are doing the right thing! they are small and have no sense of danger!

Jasonandyawegunorts Thu 13-Aug-15 13:02:01

I'm not sure they should be used as a punishment like that, but Reins themselves are fine.

startwig1982 Thu 13-Aug-15 22:23:35

We've never used reins before so this is their only use.

Ferguson Fri 14-Aug-15 17:06:03

I can't remember how old DS was, but we used reins for a while. We made a game out of it, saying "Whoa" and "Walk on!" pretending he was a horse.

DeandraReynolds Fri 14-Aug-15 17:08:31

I'd have probably kept the reins (or a wrist strap) on for the rest of the visit tbh so if it worked after 10 minutes then great. With a younger child I'd put them in a buggy if they ran off but you can't do that with a 4yo.

VikingLady Sun 16-Aug-15 20:22:51

Sounds very sensible. We used reins very briefly from 18m to around 2, then carried them in the nappy bag and used them as a threat (in conjunction with explaining why she mustn't run off). Worked a treat!

Now she's 3.5 we threaten to go home for the reins.

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